python23 Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I recently posted a thread about dating a girl after 6 dates and wondering where it was going. She cancelled on me tonight as her friend isn't well so that's fair enough. But she's been texting me all night as she said she will be free early next week to see me. I said we need to talk and she agreed and said she doesn't know whether she can take it further just yet. I was honest with my reply and said I wanted to take things further but I'm not going to push her or rush her with anything. Then I got this. This girl stayed at my house on her 21st birthday. I've dated her 7 times, met her best friend twice but we haven't slept together. I do like you but I don't know whether there is enough chemistry for it to go any further. I feel like we are more good friends than anything :/ I wish I felt like I could be with you in a relationship but it's just not there at the moment.. I must seem like a right bitch and I'm sorry if I do come across as if I've led you on but I just wanted to give it some time to see whether it would develop :/ xx
ExpatInItaly Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 You don't need to reply at all. She said her piece. You're free to date other people now! 6
BradJacobs Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 You both tried. One of you wanted it, the other didn't. These things happen when you date as an adult. Don't reply. Move on. 1
Fly Union Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 She's not interested, bro. Move on and don't contact her again EVEN IF SHE CONTACTS YOU.
Targetlock Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 At least she messaged you and told you straight rather than what was going on. seems like a fair response to me. 3
Larry56 Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 You are just simply too available. So...just make her miss you by not replying. Give her a couple of weeks to come round. Do not beg, do not grovel, do not "EXPRESS YOUR LOVE" it will not work.
Mr.Mango Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 No need to respond, you both want different things and she was kind enough to point it out before it really went nowhere.
organizedchaos Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 You both tried. One of you wanted it, the other didn't. These things happen when you date as an adult. Don't reply. Move on. Agreed. Do not respond.
deathandtaxes Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 You are just simply too available. So...just make her miss you by not replying. Give her a couple of weeks to come round. Do not beg, do not grovel, do not "EXPRESS YOUR LOVE" it will not work. I call bs on being too available. Sometimes it just takes people several dates to realize whether the other person is really for them. Don't reply. Move on. Enjoy the memories of your dates together.
Thegreatestthing Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Oh she really was just honest - she liked you wanted to keep dating you to see if the chemistry would finally appear but it didn't for her. I don't know what you can do,she wasn't trying to hurt you she just wanted to see if anything would develop but it didn't for her. I recently posted a thread about dating a girl after 6 dates and wondering where it was going. She cancelled on me tonight as her friend isn't well so that's fair enough. But she's been texting me all night as she said she will be free early next week to see me. I said we need to talk and she agreed and said she doesn't know whether she can take it further just yet. I was honest with my reply and said I wanted to take things further but I'm not going to push her or rush her with anything. Then I got this. This girl stayed at my house on her 21st birthday. I've dated her 7 times, met her best friend twice but we haven't slept together. I do like you but I don't know whether there is enough chemistry for it to go any further. I feel like we are more good friends than anything :/ I wish I felt like I could be with you in a relationship but it's just not there at the moment.. I must seem like a right bitch and I'm sorry if I do come across as if I've led you on but I just wanted to give it some time to see whether it would develop :/ xx
Thegreatestthing Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 It is true there was a guy but I just wasnt feeling it because he was emailing me so much and just constantly asking about my feelings when he just went and dated someone else I got so upset and wanted him bad. You are just simply too available. So...just make her miss you by not replying. Give her a couple of weeks to come round. Do not beg, do not grovel, do not "EXPRESS YOUR LOVE" it will not work.
Author python23 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Thanks for your advice, il back off now and date other people. It's just abit strange because for the past week or so it's been her texting me all the time and wanting to know what I'm up to and when I'm free next week to meet up.
OhThatGirl Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Thanks for your advice, il back off now and date other people. It's just abit strange because for the past week or so it's been her texting me all the time and wanting to know what I'm up to and when I'm free next week to meet up. Like she said, she thinks of you more as a friend and didn't feel a spark. That's ok. It happens. She handled it extremely well for being quite young. You can reply by telling her you appreciate her honesty and wish her the best. If you don't want to pursue a strictly platonic friendship you can tell her that as well. It's all good. She wanted to give you a shot so you've got some redeeming qualities but for whatever reason she just doesn't feel chemistry. Time to date someone else.
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