ConcreteHeart Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I am coming to the end of almost 3 weeks of no contact. My therapist has advised me that LC was limiting my progress in healing so we determined that all that "let's be friends" nonsense was hurting more than helping. But, I still have so much to say, and have decided that I will say it here instead of breaking no contact Dear exMM Thanks so much for your offer of being my friend. I suppose I should be grateful and honoured that you would allow me in your life. I know you have said that it may be months and months before you will think about contacting me, and that its "just your way" and it isn't a negative thing, that it is "just the way you are". That is such a gracious offer for a girl like me, and at believe it or not, at one time in my life that would have been enough for me. But now I have changed. I deserve better. I deserve to be treated as the amazing wonderfully, kind woman that I am. I deserve to be treated the way you promised you would, and couldn't actually follow through with. I am beautiful, precious and special just as you said. I am sorry that someone hurt you so badly, that you we unable to receive and accept my love as it was intended. I am also sorry that you will never feel the true extent of what we could mean to each other. You have your reasons. I believed that you loved me in your way once, but the way we treat each other now is not worthy of the promises we made to each other. So...I am done. Done with settling for the crumbs you think I am entitled to...I love you, but I love myself more... 5
Scott Thomas Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Forgive be for this, but I think that the best way to forget him is by remembering that he almost destroyed your life. How're things with your H? What steps have you taken, if any (eg confessing, marriage counselling, personal counselling, talking with trusted friends etc) to improve things at home? 2
spice4life Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 Its good you posted it here instead of sending. I'm curious though about the "just the way you are" quote. Not making sense to me. Are you letting him know that you know something about him personally that he doesn't think you know? 1
herself Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 I hope your able to pick up the peices. In strict NC its difficult, and hurts alot, but its stunning when you feel those first pangs of relief like you are going to be ok. Stay strong & block and delete everywhere so you know if he us tempted to contact or send a breadcrumb you wont see it and b set back. When mine contacted it was after about 3 weeks and in that week it was the first time I smiled & the first few days i hadnt cried & it messed up everything. So please take precautions. Wish you all the best in your healing.
Secret Advisor Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Better to post this here than to send it to him.
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