brokenheart94 Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 As mentioned in my other thread my gf broke up with me after being 2 years together. The reason she broke up was because of the fact that she is of different religion to me (shes hindu im a muslim) and she cudnt stand the fact that we cant have a future together because my family is really religious and its killing us :'( we both really love each other so much and planned our future together but its only recent where thoughts that we cant be together started to creep up. When we first met these things didnt mater it was love at first site. Shes my first gf and my first love. Shes so beautiful kind and and we talked everyday for hours and hours. One day she was telling me how much it hurts and i felt like she was hurting to an extent where she wud do the unthinkable and... u know. If she did i dont know if i wud forgive myself and so rather hurt ourselves even more i told her that if she cudnt stand the pain we shud break up but she sed give it time. To make things easier, i even made her promise that durin our relationship if there was a guy who made her happy (and was of the same religion) then she shud give him a chance and break up with me... it hurts so much :'( but i dnt have the strength to go against my religion and my family and be together. Few months past and she sent me a breakup message saying she doesnt want to go thru the pain again and that she was breakin up with me but that she loves me and will always be in her heart. I was so shocked cuz i love her to bitz it made me so depressed and i felt ill. She also told me there was another guy and within a week they webt out and it looked to be a serious relationship. I know i told her to do this but to see the love of ure life with someone else regardless if its the right thing is so.. so painful </3. She would still say that she loves me and i would say i love her but it hurts cuz thd thought of them together would creep into my mind even when we arent talking. Shes also hurting but says that if we stayrd together longer than it wud be harder to let go. shes honestly the only girl i felt so much love for and in so depressed and i feel lonely i duno what to do i cant even focus in uni cuz i think about her and our future we was suppose to have and what wr did together. How do we let each other go even though we love each other so much but the only reason holdin us back is our religions and our families. Of courze we dont want to go against our family but it hurts so bad... ! p.s. the idea of going NC just hurts more because shes someone who had been a part of my life and i dnt want to see all that go to waste she also doesnt want me to stop talkin to her even tho she has a bf
flightplan Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I can relate. Same thing here. I've accepted it and have moved on but it still stings. The obstacles are too great to overcome, especially when it comes to family and faith. The sooner you accept this and go no contact, the sooner you can begin to heal. You will always love her, as I do, but loving someone and living a life with them are two different things. Move on my friend.
ayudorama Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Perhaps this is a good time to turn to Allah? (: Having gone through heartbreak myself, the only comfort I sought which actually stayed for longer than 5 minutes is found by seeking Allah. I'm sorry you're going through so much pain.
Author brokenheart94 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I know that there isnt much i can do about the fact that my family wont accept her etc but thats why i feel guilty that im letting a once in a life time girl like hee go with another man... what if im making a mistake by not doing anything?
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