Going so well, now not so sure

[Blastbeat]

Well I met this girl on Tinder about a month ago.

We talked for aaages every night and both have heaps in common.

I got her number and took her out to a nice bar on the side of the beach and

ended it by the cliche walk on the beach and sat down, talking until midnight until I kissed her under the moonlight (hahaha)

 

So that went well then we were talking all week and she invited me round to her place where we had another awesome night and we slept together.. felt like the best sex ever, like on and off all night til the morning. She wanted me to hang out more that day but I had stuff to do which was all good but we talked constantly over the next couple of days.

 

Now it changes. She is off on holiday with her mate tomorrow for a week so wanted to see each other again last night before she took off. She came round and we drank together and I kind of instantly felt she was a bit different. She got a text from her mate and said she had to go because her cat was sick and had to take him to the vet, so i said ok (instantly knew it was bull****). Tonight I was talking to her and she asked if the reason i was having a seperate flatwarming from my flatmates was because of waiting for her to get back. If so then you probably shouldn't...

I just said straight up:

 

"oh ok, so you're not interested in me anymore? all good then I didnt realize that was the case"

 

Her- "no well I am, I genuinely like you and think your real sweet, just that I have some **** I need to sort out and dont want to lead you on or planning stuff around me yet. Sorry if im messing with your head"

 

Me- "nah its all good i just thought we were on the same page until now."

 

Her -"ok well have a good weekend. Talk soon ok."

 

LADIES WHAT IS THIS PLEASE? Should I cut my losses and not see her again, or should I keep myself open? I really like her, but I am confident I could go get another girl tomorrow and not waste my time :/

[Conners]

Well I met this girl on Tinder about a month ago.

We talked for aaages every night and both have heaps in common.

I got her number and took her out to a nice bar on the side of the beach and

ended it by the cliche walk on the beach and sat down, talking until midnight until I kissed her under the moonlight (hahaha)

 

So that went well then we were talking all week and she invited me round to her place where we had another awesome night and we slept together.. felt like the best sex ever, like on and off all night til the morning. She wanted me to hang out more that day but I had stuff to do which was all good but we talked constantly over the next couple of days.

 

Now it changes. She is off on holiday with her mate tomorrow for a week so wanted to see each other again last night before she took off. She came round and we drank together and I kind of instantly felt she was a bit different. She got a text from her mate and said she had to go because her cat was sick and had to take him to the vet, so i said ok (instantly knew it was bull****). Tonight I was talking to her and she asked if the reason i was having a seperate flatwarming from my flatmates was because of waiting for her to get back. If so then you probably shouldn't...

I just said straight up:

 

"oh ok, so you're not interested in me anymore? all good then I didnt realize that was the case"

 

Her- "no well I am, I genuinely like you and think your real sweet, just that I have some **** I need to sort out and dont want to lead you on or planning stuff around me yet. Sorry if im messing with your head"

 

Me- "nah its all good i just thought we were on the same page until now."

 

Her -"ok well have a good weekend. Talk soon ok."

 

LADIES WHAT IS THIS PLEASE? Should I cut my losses and not see her again, or should I keep myself open? I really like her, but I am confident I could go get another girl tomorrow and not waste my time :/

 

Probably another guy in the picture.. could be an ex, could be another guy she met on tinder.. who knows!

 

Honestly, I have said similar sort of BS to a guy I went on a couple of dates with.. I do like him but my heart is still with the ex.

 

You're on the back burner mate and you shouldn't come across too needy/clingy because it might chase her away.

 

ALSO; I thought tinder was a hook-up app? I have it and all the guys on their are seedy as and are clearly thinking with their dicks! I think i'll delete it haha I don't plan to meet up with anyone from it.

[Gaeta]

I agree with the previous poster. There is someone else in the picture. Like she said do not make her the center of your plans. I would move on if I were you.

[Cam7]

I've never heard of anyone forming a relationship over tinder to be honest.

It's all about hookups.

 

But I agree, the ex is somewhere in the picture.

 

Her texts are trying to let you down nicely. I hate those texts...

[LEEVIT2F8]

She is either into or not over someone else. But it sounds like you hit it pretty well. So that fake text is her telling her friend before the date, "Get me out of there before I sleep with him again".

 

In my experience, if your at the top of their sexual "good times" list they always come back at some point. If I were you I'd put her on F'buddy status.

 

I'd say something like, "I think your make a pretty good partner in crime as well. I'm not trying to re-enact the notebook here. But I am down for round 2, so hit me up when you get that feeling".

 

After that she will know what she is contacting you for in the future. Then don't chase in a couple weeks she will come to you. Knock it out the park again and again. When she catches a feeling tell her you didn't know you were messing with her head. LOL

 

And you win my friend! Have fun...

[Blastbeat]

Yeah, I'm pretty cut and dry. Just wanted to get some advice from an outsiders pov. Cheers for the comments. There's no doubt she wants to keep me on the backburner I think now. Something made her drastically change overnight, I couldn't get rid of her before then (not that I wanted to) so when she gets back I'm gonna give it to her straight. Is your ex back? If so/not, I would still like to still sleep with you and all that but I'm gonna start dating someone else. Will let you guys know what happens.

 

BTW, I am not emotional about this stuff. She wants to waste her time with ex's then it's her loss. I have a lot to offer, and I wont be wasting my time on someone like that.