Girlfriend Broke Up, BUT It Was Wierd, As If She Doesn't Want To Lose Me ????

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Greeting everybody,

 

I have a little relationship problem i need help with, so here are the details:

My girlfriend is 23, i am 22. She is doing her Master's degree (1 year from now and she is out in the real life - I have 2 years from my Bachelor of Science). When we got together 1 year and three months ago, I was a little childish, and lazy. I changed a lot in my favor (and it was our relationships favour too) in these cases, she says i am a great boyfriend. Okey so here's the story. She was a little unsure of this relationship in the past too, but it was because she is my first girlfriend and feared that i would leave her one day, and that I have no job, how should i say... it sounds money grabbing but it is meant that i can't ensure her economic safety as a family should need... bah i know it sounds wierd, but i hope you understand what i am trying to say). She had an intern job for a half year, it was good money but she hated the job. So she stopped doing it after a half year, but now she has much less money without work, and she felt really bad about it. So four days ago we had an evening together, it was really good, but just before we went to sleep she had this bad feeling about this "she has no money thing". I tried to calm her down but she was just upset, so we lied down and slept. Then in the morning she just told me that she wanted to be alone, so i left, and we didn't talked for 2 days.(it was four days from now) So two days before now i thought i go see her in her room... this was the time when the break up started. She said that she isn't in love with me anymore and that she taught me much more things in life than i did to her. She has nobody (okay, she has a few friends but none of them are really close), so she said that she doesn't want to take advantage of me that she is with me so she won't be alone. It's fair. I just doesn't understand her, because she didn't act wierd on the last weeks or even days. Even on the night we talked, she held and stroke my hands a lot. One time we hugged and she pulled away the curtain and said that we took our first picture in this window in this pose (hugging). Then we looked at each other and i think she thought about kissing me, i just saw that on her face, and even asked her, she didn't gave me a clear "no i didn't want" answer. Then we sat down and asked her that what if we meet in five years from now when i have much more life experience (She is really mature girl, and i love it about her, i just think i am not too experienced in life as of now). Anyway she looked n me desperately and asked if i didn't want to speak with her anymore just from five years from now, because she really likes me and doesn't want to lose me. I told her i don't know, i need time but i really like her personality and i really like her as a person, so maybe i will speak to her but i don't know how much time i need. So we talked and talked then we stood up again as i started to leave the room, then she started to pick my eyebrows (yes sometimes it need some correction, cuz it can get a little bushy )... so it was really wierd, as she held and stroked my hands during the stand up thing. I hugged her a few times then i left the room. I really don't know what to think about it, it was really wierd... as if she didn't want to break up... i just don't know. We weren't even fighting, she said it too that our relationship is really good, we always discussed every problem we had, we didn't hurt the others feelings so much that we should have been broken up or something. So i don't know... What your opinion guys? Should i wait a few weeks then talk with her? Is there any shred of hope for this to continue? I know you are going to tell me that there will be other girls, but i just don't want another girl right now. i want her, if she is really gone then i'll start looking.

Thanks for any advice and sorry for the long post

 

My main language is not english so sorry for any language problems, i hope i was clear on everything.

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So the thing is like this, you are obviously to young and I will be brutally honest: you won't end up with this girl in the end. She is the independent type of girl and doesn't like to depend on others. When she had financial problems she felt awkward depending on you when you don't have a job.

 

Make some changes in your life like getting a part time job and finish school, don't wait for her because she may never come back, focus on improving yourself.

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yes i know she is the independent type, she likes to be alone and she likes to do things how she sees fit.

So you say, she broke up because she felt vulnerable cuz of having less money then before? this sounds crazy if this is the case (of course this may not be the case.)

 

i don't feel that the world's gonna end or something like that.

 

anyway thanks for the advice.