luvlost88 Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Ok, so long story short.. me and my ex broke up 3 months ago (he dumped me for being a jackass), last 6 weeks have been strict no contact initiated by him, I have respected his wishes by not messaging or calling him at all. He had always said before he went no contact that with some time if I got my attitude in check down the line we may try again… fast forward to today, I check a old email address we had shared and he probably figured I forgot about and wouldn't you know it he has new email saying he is signed up at OK Cupid. I made a blank profile to check his profile out and his description and stats are all blank but his default picture is one of us with me cut out.. all you can see is a little of my shoulder. why would he put a picture of us, is it possible he may figure I was checking his email and would find it? He may already know that I have a POF profile as one of his friends messaged me and I'm sure it got back to him. Should I make a profile on OK Cupid and attempt to contact him? I still really love him and want to get a chance to fix things.. how should I respond to this?
CarrieT Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Don't try and fix things. Just let it go and move on. 1
robbysurfs Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I honestly would leave it alone and try for now to stay nc and maybe when your a bit less emotionally involved maybe you both can have a conversation about your relationship. Or you can just keep on stalking and make this process harder. Remember he broke it off with you, so unless he contacts you with a message along the lines of "I want you back lets work on our relationship" I would stay nc work on myself and move forward. Dont put your life on pause and wait around for him because it sounds like hes moving on.
Author luvlost88 Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Well, he has the profile blank… except where under what he's looking for he just filled out new friends. Maybe he isn't looking to date right now, or to see if I notice he has a profile?
tlegend Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Well, he has the profile blank… except where under what he's looking for he just filled out new friends. Maybe he isn't looking to date right now, or to see if I notice he has a profile? Sure, go ahead. Waste the time you would use making a fake profile to stalk a guy who broke it off with you only to try to get in contact with him.... See how it works out for you then.
Author luvlost88 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 You guys are absolutely right, I am not going to give him any contact until he sends the first message. With all the crap I put him through, I'm sure I really messed him up. He told me he needs time to heal and I'm sure he won't be able to heal with me in the picture. I have, as of today, stopped stalking him on every form of social media I have been checking up on him and am focusing on fixing the parts of me that caused the strong relationship we had to fail. If he does come around (which in time I'm sure he would) I will cross that bridge than. In the mean time in between time its all about focusing on my work, school, goals, and attitude. Thanks for all you guys responses as they may have kept me from making a move that would have set the final nail in the coffin.
stillafool Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 He may have used the picture with you cut out of it because it is the most recent photo of himself.
Author luvlost88 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 Yeah, I'm sure he just liked the picture.. I have learned that you can not over evaluate these things. He most likely didn't even think I'd ever see it. No big deal.
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