Wife of 27 years had a long term affair

[ritz2006]

My wife of 27 years had a physical affair with her friends husband that lasted several years. She denies finding him attractive by any means. but claims he made her feel "hot, sexy, and attractive by his grossly perverted comments." Believe it or not, she only performed oral on him for the first several months. then the intercourse was brief at best, and he knew she didn't get off. She paid for EVERYTHING, yet believes he thought she was "hot, sexy and attractive." He never so much as bought her a candy bar, but she states that he wouldn't be able to accept the acts if he wasn't into her. I just feel she was repaid for being such a fool. Paying for meals. loaning him monies that were never repaid. and having to rent an hour at her expense for a few hotel rooms. They used those minutes phones to text, and he would say "I won't be able to contact you for a couple of weeks because I'm running out of minutes." How can he run out of minutes if they are both texting exclusively? She says she knows he was just trying to fleece her out of minutes. But how do you feel good about that? She claims he did't like "making out" and was not a kisser. Too strange for me gang!

[aliveagain]

Several years is a long time to be into someone else. You lost your friends and now have a toad instead of the princess you thought you had. What do you want to do with this train wreck? Get tested for STD's, no unprotected sex, no kissing (remember what she had in her mouth). Some STD's don't even show up until 6 months after the event took place. The humiliation will act as a future deterrent for her. Get her into counselling, she needs to find out why she trashed your marriage for someone she's not attracted to. Is his wife aware?

 

You need to talk to a lawyer, you still don't know how this will turn out yet.

[whichwayisup]

My wife of 27 years had a physical affair with her friends husband that lasted several years. She denies finding him attractive by any means. but claims he made her feel "hot, sexy, and attractive by his grossly perverted comments." Believe it or not, she only performed oral on him for the first several months. then the intercourse was brief at best, and he knew she didn't get off. She paid for EVERYTHING, yet believes he thought she was "hot, sexy and attractive." He never so much as bought her a candy bar, but she states that he wouldn't be able to accept the acts if he wasn't into her. I just feel she was repaid for being such a fool. Paying for meals. loaning him monies that were never repaid. and having to rent an hour at her expense for a few hotel rooms. They used those minutes phones to text, and he would say "I won't be able to contact you for a couple of weeks because I'm running out of minutes." How can he run out of minutes if they are both texting exclusively? She says she knows he was just trying to fleece her out of minutes. But how do you feel good about that? She claims he did't like "making out" and was not a kisser. Too strange for me gang!

 

your wife has some pretty serious self esteem issues and she's broken inside.

She needs serious help.

[2sunny]

My wife of 27 years had a physical affair with her friends husband that lasted several years. She denies finding him attractive by any means. but claims he made her feel "hot, sexy, and attractive by his grossly perverted comments." Believe it or not, she only performed oral on him for the first several months. then the intercourse was brief at best, and he knew she didn't get off. She paid for EVERYTHING, yet believes he thought she was "hot, sexy and attractive." He never so much as bought her a candy bar, but she states that he wouldn't be able to accept the acts if he wasn't into her. I just feel she was repaid for being such a fool. Paying for meals. loaning him monies that were never repaid. and having to rent an hour at her expense for a few hotel rooms. They used those minutes phones to text, and he would say "I won't be able to contact you for a couple of weeks because I'm running out of minutes." How can he run out of minutes if they are both texting exclusively? She says she knows he was just trying to fleece her out of minutes. But how do you feel good about that? She claims he did't like "making out" and was not a kisser. Too strange for me gang!

 

And how does this crap make YOU feel?

 

And what are you planning to do to change things FOR YOU?

[William]

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