Madman81 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Reading that you view it as 'babysitting' is insulting. I never understood that term in this context either. It always shocked me when I heard guys who actually had kids of their own refer to their looking after their kids as "babysitting". I remember once or twice when I couldn't go out with friends because my then-wife had already made plans and I would be staying home with our daughter who was 3-4 years old. One of them would comment about me having to babysit, and I'd always reply, "no, I'm not babysitting, I'm parenting. There's a big difference." 2
preraph Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Don't you people read? I'm at work so she would be alone in my house for the week A parent either makes time to care for their kid or they hire someone. Don't you get that that's why mothers end up with more custody, because they're the only ones willing to compromise their time and work and plans to take care of their kid? When you share custody, YOU instead of your wife make arrangements for someone to be there when you can't or aren't willing to and you pay for it just like her mom has to when she can't be there. At 14, if she's at all mature, she may be okay on her own for some time as long as you come home from lunch and check on her and precook food for her so she has food and knows how to reach you in an emergency or have a trusted female neighbor look in on her once in awhile (again, you have to pay them). The point is, you are her parent and you seem to have abdicated all responsibility for parenting and acting like it's a completely unreasonable expectation. I don't agree with your wife cheating by any means if you never have, but I can certainly see she didn't have much help with the child. 1
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