Teejee Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Why does it still hurt to see a picture of my ex? Even after 3 months of nc I still feel bad looking at a picture of her. Can't imagine how much it will hurt when I will see her in person or hear that she has a new boyfriend.
lvroflife Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 What are you doing for yourself? What have you been doing for yourself? What focus have you put on YOU? What life changes have you made for YOU? Notice those questins revolve around YOU? i KNOW IT IS HARD BUT YOU HAVE TO FOCUS ON YOUR HEALING AND LESS ABOUT HER 1
Lucretius Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 The first thing it looks to me that you need to do is to get rid of that picture you have of her, by you looking at it you're continuously reminding yourself of her and instilling an imprint in your mind of a period of time that was taken a few months ago. Break ups completely suck and you can go into "Groundhog day" for the rest of your life searching questions like "should of" "could of" and "would of" but in the end you are going to have to give yourself a kick and get the needle of the record! Try and give yourself some time, do some things that make you happy and if you really can't focus on that (because i know how hard it is to actually do) then start a new hobby. Learn something like music remixing, their is lots of free software out their to get you started and if you still can't stop thinking of her then Mix together some of yours and hers favourite tracks, at least this will keep you occupied and you will learn something new. Unless of course you're already into remixing! Here is a link to a good free remixing software package, it's pretty easy and plenty of tutorials on youtube if you need them. Good luck and take care! Mixxx - Free MP3 DJ Mixing Software
WYSWYG Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 You're still attached and she's still on that pedestal in your mind. It takes time to get over them but you can also speed-up or pro-long the agony. As much as possible, avoid any "emotional-triggers" - anything that reminds you of her; social media, music, places, THAT picture! It's hard to accept the truth that they no longer care about us like how it used to be. They made that decision. Sensible or not, it's their way, it sucks, and there's no way around it! Most will recommend NC to help you heal yourself. Out of sight, out of mind. And as already mentioned, you NEED to find a way to distract yourself and occupy the idle time. Write letters/text messages but don't send them .Read them at a later time to check yourself. If you let it, your OWN imagination will torture you by painting pictures of her life now. Snap out of it! Easier said than done, but you have to nurture strength to stay afloat. Be aware that you have THAT capability. I'm going 4 months now since she cheated on me. I still miss her sometimes and the good times but I redirect my thoughts to all the **** she gave me. I get angry mostly nowadays. I saw them recently because we share the same circle of friends. I wasn't fazed really. F them. One of them will be crying too, soon enough. Get RID of that picture. Let it go, mourn the loss and look forward to the next one. Focus on making yourself better, seriously. Nothing lasts forever bro......nothing! 1
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