GirlMcDark Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Ok, so I am really confused by my ex's behavior as of yesterday, please help. Sorry this will be so long. I dated W~ for 5 months, and right after New Years, he said that he didn't want to continue things, since he realized he'd met me to soon after his last relationship ended (4 months after), and that he didn't think he could love me like I deserved. I wasn't totally broken up about it, since I had been thinking about ending things, we just seemed less than compatible on certain things that were important to me. So, that was that.....we had one night of "break-up sex" about 2 weeks later, and for the past month we haven't spoken to each other. Now, I was the one to contact him again, but not for anything romantic. Basically I texted him about contacting the guy who'd given him an "inspection" sticker for his truck (even with the cracked window!), cause I needed a wink and a nod inspection for my car until I can get my tax money and buy a new one. NOTHING ROMANTIC in the communication, I swear. He said ok, we could go get it that weekend, but I had to work and I told him that. He said "oh ok" and that was all I heard from him for 3 days. Then he texted me that he didn't think he could help me. I said ok that's ok, I'd figure it out, and that was the end of contact....or so I thought!!!! A week later, actually this past Sunday....he texted me out of the blue and asked me if I had ever gotten the car situation taken care of? I said no, but I would figure it out. He said that if I still needed it, he could help. I said ok, that would be nice. I said I'd meet him at his place, and he said no....i'll drive close to you. I was like ok....why? He said he had an old friend staying with him. Of course I thought...WOMAN!! And I was ok with that...whatever. So I said ok, meet me at Starbuck at 10am. Before he said ok and without me asking him anything, he went on with like 5 texts explaining that he was looking for a two bedroom apartment, but not for the reason I might be thinking. That he missed me, still cared about me and asked if I was seeing anyone? I said I was talking to ppl, but not seeing anyone yet. He said ok, well let's meet Monday at Starbucks and we can talk then (HIM saying we could TALK is what really SHOCKED the hell out of me, lol!) So I was like cool, ttyl. So Monday (yesterday) I get to Starbucks and grab a drink and we sit and talk. He launches into the story of how he flew to Vegas two weeks ago to help his friend April move after her sister and her bf kicked her out. Now, April is a woman in her 50's (not a hot attractive 50's, I've seen pics of her!), and someone he has known for 2 yrs ONLY through the internet by her being in his WoW guild. So anyway, they drove her car back and it broke down in AZ, and they had to take a Greyhound back here. She was supposed to stay for a week and then continue to PA where her son is. But she has decided to stay in VA for awhile and will now be his roommate? I listened to all of this just shocked....because all of this is totally out of character for him....he refused to live with ANY of his ex's, and now he's going to be roommates with an old woman? So after the story, and my shock....he kept talking about the past, the times we cooked together, carved pumpkins together, the shows we use to watch etc. Then he asked AGAIN if I was seeing anyone. I again said I was talking to ppl, but not dating yet. So, after 25-30 minutes, he said let's go get your sticker. I said ok, got in my car and we drove to the mechanic he knew who "inspected" it and passed it. So, while waiting for the sticker....I asked him why? He said why what? Why are you moving in with her? He said it's not a relationship, it's a roommate...so it's totally different. I said well yeah, but you're still living with someone and dealing with them and their crap! He said yeah, I guess, why are you jealous? I said no, and I meant it....I said it's just so out of character for you. He said he is just being a good friend, and she is a good woman who deserves better than what she's gotten in life. He than joked with me about moving in with him, and again snuck in the question of me seeing anyone else and awww...I must be jealous and he was playing with my hair and said give me a hug and he hugged me while I just sat there? So after the car passed, we drove to Advanced Auto, got transmission fluid and wiper blades and drove back to Starbucks. He put on the wipers and added the fluid to my car. We sat and talked a bit, and he said I would have to come hang out when he got the new place. I then said ok well I gotta go and he said ok, give me a hug and I hugged him lightly while he really hugged me and then.....KISSED ME quickly on the mouth, which stunned me and said ok, I still think about you and yeah....i'm gonna go now. I said ok, thank you for everything and then he got out my car and I left. Later yesterday evening, I got to thinking about things, and I texted him. I said, I am a bit up in the air as to how you want things to be. You caught me off guard with that kiss. I enjoyed talking to you, it was nice...only what do you want? Think about it, and call me when you know, and thanks for having my back today and being kind. He texted back with OK. Then later, he said added I still care for you...even if we're not together. I will always be there for my friends. I said I think we get along best when there is no pressure but the chemistry is still there, does that make sense? He said yeah it does. I waited and debated....and finally decided to test things a bit and said So I'm going to see The Lego movie Thursday, you can come too. He said what time? I said 7pm, I don't work Friday and can stay up late woohoo, lol. He said he had to work Friday but yeah he would come along. I said ok cool, see you then and have a good week. He said same to you. That was the last we have spoken, and while mostly calm, I am still going WTF and HOLY **** what does he want? What do I want? But really....what does he want? What do his actions say about what he is thinking/wanting? I know him enough to know that if he really just wanted me for sex, he would have just said so yesterday....he doesn't beat around that subject, he's straightforward there. Being that he DIDN'T even once ask to **** me or grab me indecently etc...makes me think he really does want me back for a second try? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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