Sam23 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I try to refrain from judging relationships from the outside because it's generally none of my business. However, I hear drama from my friends and read about posts on here and I just don't understand some relationships. I currently have two friends in similar situations. My one friends "guy" won't even call her his girlfriend, but she continues to stay even though she can barely trust him.. After 2 years. The second friend gets cheated on constantly by her guy when they're together, they break up and she takes him back, then he cheats and leaves for another girl, and she STILL takes him back when him and the girl didn't work out a few months later. All my relationships have failed, so am I doing it wrong by packing my stuff and leaving? Or when you do meet someone you're completely compatible with, is it somehow "fate" as my friend calls and it and should you continue to try to work it out?
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I call it the Noah's Ark syndrome. Some people can' t seem to function if they are not part of a couple & they would rather have dysfunctional relationship then to be alone. 1
hellischrome Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 You are doing it right. One should always do what's better for himself/herself, and being with a cheater (or any other kind of *********) it is just not good. Packing your stuff and walking means that you are not OK in a situation and you do something to change - which is the best thing you can do to/for youself. And... yeah, when you meet someone you're completely compatible with, you should continue to try to work it out... but first, if you are completely compatible, do you have to work it out? Second, one thing is to work it out, one thing is settling for something that makes you feel bad and disrespected. And now I can read all of this out loud as if I was talking to myself...
milwinlol Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 You're not the only person that doesn't understand certain relationships.... Personally, i don't think there's a chance in hell that you'll ever really going to be able to understand someone's relationship, unless you know all the circumstances and it's your own relationships. People often tell me things about their, or someone they know's relationship.... and i just think to myself 'Reaaaally?!'.... Everyone's different, everyone like's different things, different people, and no one really knows why we like certain things, especially in relationships, where we get almost 'hypnotized', and end up doing things we'd never even dream of doing any other time. When you meet someone for the first time, there should be a 'click'... a connection of somewhat, there should be lots of laughing, not too many awkward silences and you should just genuinely get on....you should walk away from a first date, or meeting, or whatever it is, with a smile on your face... that's how you know it went well. Don't try too hard to understand other people, at the end of the day, we're all bonkers in our own little way. Hope this helps? xx
hellischrome Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Sorry Mr Turk, I think you are being bitter and unfair. What you say happens, SOMETIMES, but I know many good guys who have good girls, and they deserve each other.
hotpotato Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I used to say stay and work it out. Now I say just LEAVE. If someone isn't devoted, you can't make them be. Of course, I wouldn't leave for frivolous reasons though. I was in a situation like you described. The ex cheated on me, dumped me for another girl. When that didn't work out, he came back and 'told' me to marry him. He honestly doesn't get why I wouldn't want him back. I almost left him, but he begged me to stay. This kind of relationship has a lot ups and downs. There are good points I saw in him that others didn't see. I wanted to see him as a good person who made mistakes. There were a lot of good memories which at the time counterbalance the bad ones.
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