ExposedBrick Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I recently exchanged a few messages with a woman on an OLD site. I am at a point where the next message should include a date request. However, there is no photos of her on her profile that contain a full body shot, most of them contain photos of her sitting or only the upper half. Is there any way I can tactfully request more photos or should I just assume she has something to hide. She also did to fill out the body type question, which is usually rounded up to a more attractive state. Any thoughts?
pteromom Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Any thoughts? Ask her out. If you aren't attracted to her on your date, don't go out on a 2nd date. 2
Ruby Slippers Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Absolutely. I don't have any full-body pictures on my OLD profile because it drastically cuts down on the volume of sexual messages I receive. I would be totally fine with a guy that I had established some rapport with, and screened as a non-creep, asking for full-body pictures. I just don't want to broadcast them to the entire OLD population, as it seems to invite far more sexual attention to show my bod, and I don't want that. 1
HappyLove Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Ask her out for coffee and see for yourself. Sad truth to OLDing is MOST people don't look like their pics body shots or not! The only way you will truly know is to meet in person. I was always leery of guys who asked for more pictures too, so that could back fire.
Author ExposedBrick Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 Ask her out for coffee and see for yourself. Sad truth to OLDing is MOST people don't look like their pics body shots or not! The only way you will truly know is to meet in person. I was always leery of guys who asked for more pictures too, so that could back I was mainly concerned with the back fire possibility. A first date is usually short and cheap so I guess it's not much of a commitment either way.
Tayken Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I recently exchanged a few messages with a woman on an OLD site. I am at a point where the next message should include a date request. However, there is no photos of her on her profile that contain a full body shot, most of them contain photos of her sitting or only the upper half. Is there any way I can tactfully request more photos or should I just assume she has something to hide. She also did to fill out the body type question, which is usually rounded up to a more attractive state. Any thoughts? Dead give away that something is being hidden...you can usually guess what when you focus on the face...hint hint Yes...but she will only deny to do that cos you've caught on to her game i.e. busted. I don't know why women do this...I mean do you think by doing this, if a guy is not interested in an overweight woman, once you meet they will change their mind? Better to be transparent up front. Funny how if it was the other way round, they would have jumped down your throat asking for a pic 1
HappyLove Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Dead give away that something is being hidden...you can usually guess what when you focus on the face...hint hint Yes...but she will only deny to do that cos you've caught on to her game i.e. busted. I don't know why women do this...I mean do you think by doing this, if a guy is not interested in an overweight woman, once you meet they will change their mind? Better to be transparent up front. Funny how if it was the other way round, they would have jumped down your throat asking for a pic Men do the same thing! They all check off athletic even tho they have 3 chins and a huge gut. And post pics that are 20 years old! Post only one angle of their face so you don't see the other 2 chins.
TheNewMe2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I've learned the hard way with OLD (which I gave up on) - that people very rarely look like their pics. However, most of the time they are willing to send a pic if asked. It's even better if you suggest you both exchange a few more pics and you have a few good ones available. If she's willing to send a pic - there ya go. If not, she's not comfortable with what she looks like. Then again...we all probably don't look as good as we think in our pics...lol
FitChick Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I've always been told I look like my photos or better. I do understand that some people aren't photogenic but if you take a selfie, people look worse in those. I almost didn't date a man who looked like Shrek in his pics. In person he was much more attractive than even in his youtube videos. He said he was relieved that I looked good as well because most people don't. Sometimes you have to take a chance.
Phantom888 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 People rarely look like their OLD pics. In my woman's case, she looks WAY BETTER in real life. Would it be a deal breaker if your lady has an unattractive body? Do you think she has a pretty face? If you think her body may be a turn off, maybe you shouldn't waste your time?
Tayken Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Men do the same thing! They all check off athletic even tho they have 3 chins and a huge gut. And post pics that are 20 years old! Post only one angle of their face so you don't see the other 2 chins. Not this man...I have always believed in being transparent i.e. nothing to hide so when you do meet me, there is no shocker. I am one of the most young looking facially 40 something you can ever meet. Sometimes I think it works against me because think am lying until I bring out my ID My pictures are always current, and I have never had a GUT and sure as hell don't plan to have one anytime soon
Author ExposedBrick Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 People rarely look like their OLD pics. In my woman's case, she looks WAY BETTER in real life. Would it be a deal breaker if your lady has an unattractive body? Do you think she has a pretty face? If you think her body may be a turn off, maybe you shouldn't waste your time? I have had mix experience with women looking better or worse in "real" life in their photos. I have seen it go both ways actually. I think most of us have a certain body type they are attracted to, so its just kind of a waste of time to not be forthcoming. I certainly don't post pictures that are not representative of myself intentionally. I would say if things are dramatically different in person, it is a deal breaker due to the lack of transparency, not necessarily due to shallowness. Now what if things were sort of the opposite where there are body shots without a close up of a face. I coincidentally was messaged by a second woman with full body shots but she is wearing sunglasses in both so its hard to see her face. I don't think I'd recognize her if we were to meet.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I've only met a handful of people through OLD. About half of them looked better than their photos, half looked not as good. The photos were all clear and recent - but some people are more or less photogenic than others. I get the feedback that I look better in person than my photos. I intentionally put normal, non-glam shots because I prefer to under-promise and over-deliver than the inverse.
TXGuy Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 If you are this far along, do not ask. Just meet her for coffee. If she is somewhat normal, roll with it. If she has been misrepresenting herself, leave. It is up to you if you say hello first. If she is normal weight, she is likely to be somewhat put off by the request. That will only hurt your chances to move forward. If she is a SIF (secret internet fattie), she will play a number of games before eventually giving you a picture taken somewhere in the last five years when she was at her lightest. You will still end up where you are right now. 1
abby_tx Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I would be very offended if someone asked me for more pictures. Usually that's enough to make me quit talking to them. I am a fit person too, so it's not that I have something to hide. Just go on the date with her and judge for yourself.
HappyLove Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 "If she is a SIF (secret internet fattie)" Hahahahaha, that's a good one!
Phoe Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 When I was on OLD I had one headshot, and one full body pic. One dude clearly thought that wasn't enough for him and requested that I put up more photos. I stopped messaging him.
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