darry Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Hi this is darry, i'm new to the forum nice to meet you ladies and gentleman out there. Recently, 3 weeks ago just had a brkup with my 1.5years relationship girlfriend. I was the one who gave her the most memories and also quite abit of bad ones as well. She was tired of me venting anger on her when i was having a bad mood or bad day. I'm quite a hot tempered guy and unreasonable at times, but when i'm ok i treat her really good and always makes her laugh. The reason she broke up with me is that she was tired of dealing with the same problems with me all the time and asked me to give her some time after we broke up. I was really impatient and kept asking her for another chance that i'll never be the same to her anymore and i'll throw away my pride and give in to her more because she's always the one to give in to me. I'm the first BF she went overseas with, and did lots of things she have never with her other ex BF. After texting her almost daily she said to me bluntly speaking, i never want to have anything to do with you anymore. And that she no longer has anymore feeling towards me. She said, once the feeling is gone, it's hard to feel the same again. Is it really true or is she hiding her true feelings from me? I'm working really hard to change the bad points about me. She is still contacting my brother through watsapp ( i'm not using it ) because she wants to take her plushtoy back and told my brother not to let me know. And her status on it "Everyday is awesomeeeeeeeeeee!" Do you think she's faking it or really feels so? I'm on day 5 of NC with her now. But she didn't delete me away from her Facebook. What do you guys think about this? Do you think i still have a chance to reconcile with her?
TaraMaiden Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Hi this is darry, i'm new to the forum nice to meet you ladies and gentleman out there. Recently, 3 weeks ago just had a brkup with my 1.5years relationship girlfriend. I was the one who gave her the most memories and also quite abit of bad ones as well. She was tired of me venting anger on her when i was having a bad mood or bad day. I'm quite a hot tempered guy and unreasonable at times, but when i'm ok i treat her really good and always makes her laugh. The reason she broke up with me is that she was tired of dealing with the same problems with me all the time and asked me to give her some time after we broke up. I was really impatient and kept asking her for another chance that i'll never be the same to her anymore and i'll throw away my pride and give in to her more because she's always the one to give in to me. I'm the first BF she went overseas with, and did lots of things she have never with her other ex BF. After texting her almost daily she said to me bluntly speaking, i never want to have anything to do with you anymore. And that she no longer has anymore feeling towards me. She said, once the feeling is gone, it's hard to feel the same again. Is it really true or is she hiding her true feelings from me? I'm working really hard to change the bad points about me. She is still contacting my brother through watsapp ( i'm not using it ) because she wants to take her plushtoy back and told my brother not to let me know. And her status on it "Everyday is awesomeeeeeeeeeee!" Do you think she's faking it or really feels so? I'm on day 5 of NC with her now. But she didn't delete me away from her Facebook. What do you guys think about this? Do you think i still have a chance to reconcile with her? Yes, she's telling the truth. No, you haven't got a bat's chance in hell. Why? because you haven't done anything concrete to change that she can see evidence of. And she's not prepared to hang around and see you prove it. Once bitten, twice shy. I'm afraid this ship has sailed, and you are most definitely - Not on it.
Never Again Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 If there's anything I've come to realize from these boards, it's that "too late" happens far too often. It happens with a lot of dumpers: - They'll see a problem and MAYBE they'll mention it, but they usually won't stress how much it impacts them. - They'll silently watch for changes, and will grow more dissatisfied and unhappy when they don't come. (Fun fact, for many people, the simple act of changing or trying to change isn't enough...they need to see RESULTS) - Eventually they'll hit a tipping point and break it off. - The dumpee, who never felt fully informed, finally realizes how big of a problem they were creating and genuinely want to transform. So here's the thing: Personally, I DO think that it's possible for "those feelings" to come back...but only if the problems have been solved and the dumper is willing to open their heart again. But, as Tara said, once bitten, twice shy. A lot of people simply aren't willing to give a second chance to a dissatisfying partner because they can't shake the negative memories.
devilish innocent Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 This is definitely not one of those situations where you should be hanging around waiting for her to come back. She's made it quite clear she wants to move on. Work on improving yourself for the next girl that comes along. You're only going to make yourself miserable hoping for another chance with this one. What she feels isn't really your business anymore. Either way, her mind is already made up about not coming back to you, and it's nothing you can change.
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