oasisfancortes Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 (edited) So my gf of two months is being difficult. I think her period is making her moody. Sometimes when we talk on the phone, I know she's mad and when I ask what's wrong, she downplays it and doesn't admit she's bothered about something and when we hang up, she'll bitch to me over text and say stuff she didn't on the phone. It's super annoying and I don't want to play games. I'm naive, passive, and I let stuff slide that bothers me. I'v never bitched about anything. But here she is, complaining. I'm always trying to be optimistic and joke around but sometimes she seems to be annoyed. I'm not replying to her messages right now, telling me stuff isn't going to work out. I like her, but sometimes she can just be too much, going from warm and super passionate to cold and mean randomly. This is my first legit relationship. So....What is an appropriate way to reply and approach a woman being like this? *I'm seeking advice, and also wanting to vent. We work together too, so I don't want things to turn ugly. Otherwise, it'll be super difficult. Edited February 25, 2014 by oasisfancortes
whichwayisup Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 (edited) What is she complaining about in her texts? Stuff about you and her or life in general? How often does this happen, or do you mean just depending where she is in her cycle? Just ask her. Be honest...That you'd like to help make her feel better but she needs to explain it and not pretend all is okay when it isn't. Also, if she venting that's one thing but continually complaining is not good. That gets old fast and it's boring to listen to someone constantly doing that. How well do you know her? 2 months in a relationship isn't that long... Edited February 25, 2014 by whichwayisup 1
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Do not blame her menstrual cycle. That's sexist at best. She may be immature. If something is bothering her she ought to be able to talk about it, not just text. Text, e-mail, IM -- anything where you don't have voice context -- are the worse mediums to tackle tough subjects. Tell her that the texting bothers you but that you would be happy to talk about her issues. At 2 months if she is already saying things won't work out unless you can get to the root of her doubt she's probably right but only because she caused the break up. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 If she's like this after two months and telling you it's not working, believe her. Lots of relationships crash after a couple months when the infatuation starts to wear off etc. just move on.
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