Janesays Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Not to mention her being a hypocrite and showing condescension and judgment to the men in this thread with differing opinions But we don't have differing opinions. Want to see? I said bail if hes not ready and not to rush into a likely mistake. Go re-read my posts. I SAID THE SAME EXACT THING. I DID NOT tell him to marry her. I told him to bail. JUST LIKE YOU. What I took issue with was everyone coming down hard on this woman for wanting a family and being HONEST. There is NOTHING wrong with that. And the fact that you suggested surrogacy as a solution to possible infertility tells me that, despite what you claim, you HAVE NOT done your homework here. I always appreciate posters who go the extra mile to make sure that their advice is relevant and factual. Yours was not. I hope that changes in the future because you would have a lot more to offer if you utilized a google button once in awhile. And I mean that sincerely and with respect. 1
kaylan Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 How was what I said not relevant....? Its very relevant to men who may want kids but don't want to be pressured into potentially marrying the wrong female.
Quiet Storm Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 It's not about who's right or wrong, it's just simple compatibility. What each person wants out of life. Manipulation would be "forgetting" to take her pill. Making expectations clear, and stating what actions you will take if those expectations are not met, is mature communication. She's not trying to control him, she's being direct and honest. He simply feels controlled because if he doesn't make his decision, she will make hers. It's just two people with different priorities. 1
FitChick Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Manipulation would be "forgetting" to take her pill. Plenty of women do that. Always wear a condom with this woman! Say you have a bladder infection or something. 3
Eggplant Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 If she wants children of her own someday, she doesn't HAVE 5 years to take her time and 'figure it out.' Even if she were much younger, nobody, or at least no woman who wants children, has 5 years to spend on a relationship that's going nowhere. 1
Eggplant Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Plenty of women do that. Always wear a condom with this woman! Say you have a bladder infection or something.I didn't see any indication that this woman is untrustworthy that way. Still, always take birth control into your own hands.
isisisweeping Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Plenty of women do that. Always wear a condom with this woman! Say you have a bladder infection or something. I always have a question about people who assume that sort of characteristics in other people... especially with no evidence of the sort. What goes inside someone's mind that they think that's what's going on in other people's minds... such machinations...
central Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 (edited) Whoa. OK, sorry to use you as an example, central, but THIS is manipulative. It's anything but manipulative. It's the truth of her situation, and she will probably realize it. I do not - and did not - suggest that he say this to her, but it IS a potential consequence of not not working on the issues and reaching solutions that will let the relationship progress. I do question whether it is worth fixing, but that's the OP's decision. Edited February 26, 2014 by central
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