Ex has got back in touch, 2.5 weeks after seeing each other 'for the last time'.

[incendia]

I met this guy about 4 months ago, via Tinder, didn't really think anything of it. He seemed nice, intelligent, attractive and he asked me out straight away (yay!). The only problem was I was visiting my home town and no longer live there anymore and was travelling to where I live now the following day.

Over the next 5 weeks, we got really close emotionally without meaning to, talking about everything and anything. It was lovely. Attraction grew and when did finally meet it wasn't awkward at all. It was like we'd always been together, or for the lack of awkwardness part - were already lovers. It was kind of cool, but also a little overwhelming. That kind of instant connection, chemistry.

For me, I'd never felt more myself or the very best version of myself with a guy before. It was rare, and I knew that. He told me he'd never felt that strongly straight away for anyone before. Sexually/emotionally/intellectually/mentally… ticked all the boxes until he freaked himself out. Over practically nothing. He asked me to send across these photos we took of ourselves (selfies) from the last time I was in town. I had a gut feeling it was a bad idea (didn't want to scare him off), but sent anyway. He seemed to jump the gun and say he didn't want a relationship, wasn't ready, just got out of a messy breakup (which is all true, but also HIS problem) but that he saw me as 'end game' and wasn't ready to meet me. I know he was just scared but for me, when someone says they don't want to be with you, I believe them.

 

We decided to meet for coffee as friends, since I was in town again and that was lovely. No weirdness, he was super nervous but I was cool just to hang out and have a nice chat. Because essentially, it was a loving friendship (or at least the foundation for said loving relationship to grow). We met up one more time, but he went all out.. took me out for dinner, treated me like a girlfriend when we were meant to be 'just friends' it was confusing but also nice if that was the last time we'd get to see each other.

 

So flash forward to present day which is about 3 weeks after this last meet. NC until yesterday. He texts me and apologises for not talking (he doesn't know I'm attempting NC or LC for myself to move on). He tells me how he's had a lot of time to himself and been feeling depressed, lonely and misses me. It's stupid because I've also been a bit of a hermit, needing time out to 'feel it' and let go.

The conversation was really open, genuine, honest, and positive. We laughed and I cut it short when it felt he was leaning on me like a girlfriend. Emotional boundaries may need to be set, I can't really do grey area. lol He's Aquarius and I'm Scorpio.

 

Do you think he misses me? is this an 'i want you back' or 'memory lane'? Suppose it depends on if regular contact continues.

Edited February 25, 2014 by incendia