Stressus Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Me and a friend were at a restaurant eating and talking. My friend said something(we were talking about a subject) and a waitress chick comes over and starts asking him about what he said and seemed interested in the subject. She's standing between us essentially facing him direct on but was closer to me. She starts the conversation very one sided with him like "Did you just say ___, Are you a ___" type of language. She never asked general questions like "Did you guys just say ___, Are you guys ___" which would allow me into the conversation. Essentially I felt ignored more or less. I don't think it was in a mean way though(she was being nice and smiling). Now my friend is older and I'm sure probably not more attractive than me. Was there much of a chance this chick was just trying to make me jealous or did she almost surely not find any interest in me? Or was she not attracted to my friend so it was easier for her to converse and ask him questions and not make it easy for me to talk to her? I can't imagine she would actually be attracted to my friend but I guess it's a possibility
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 That's pretty harsh to say about a friend. "I can't imagine she would actually be attracted to my friend..." Seems like you're a little bit cocky with your looks. I think that some women are a good judgment of character -- especially good waitresses. Perhaps she felt you were too full of yourself and didn't want to pursue you? Maybe she was just being nice and was interested in the conversation. Do what I did. Go to the restaurant again. Step her aside. Ask her for her phone number. If she says no, she wasn't interested in you. No big deal.
Chalkdust89 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 If she was attracted to your friend instead of you (though she doesn't automatically need to be into one of you to have a conversation with him)...what is so wrong with your friend that you find that so unbelievable? There are a lot of reasons to find someone attractive. 1
Col1 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 That waitress needed to converse with both customers to maximize her tips.
Author Stressus Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 Sheesh guys, calm down. Do you guys know what an emoticon is? Not that my friend is bad looking but he is a bit older and unless she really digs old guys I think I would be more her type(not a lot of difference between us except he is significantly older(not like 6 months but many years)). Oh, and the waitress wasn't our waitress... so she wasn't looking for tips. I could just be totally repulsive but I doubt it... The conversation was just so one sided that it kinda bugs me a bit.
Chalkdust89 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Are you annoyed because this random waitress at some restaurant was the girl of your dreams, or because your friend got attention instead of you? I genuinely don't understand why you would give it a second thought, unless this is something that happens to you all the time. 1
Guy On The Couch Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Me and a friend were at a restaurant eating and talking. My friend said something(we were talking about a subject) and a waitress chick comes over and starts asking him about what he said and seemed interested in the subject. She's standing between us essentially facing him direct on but was closer to me. She starts the conversation very one sided with him like "Did you just say ___, Are you a ___" type of language. She never asked general questions like "Did you guys just say ___, Are you guys ___" which would allow me into the conversation. Essentially I felt ignored more or less. I don't think it was in a mean way though(she was being nice and smiling). Now my friend is older and I'm sure probably not more attractive than me. Was there much of a chance this chick was just trying to make me jealous or did she almost surely not find any interest in me? Or was she not attracted to my friend so it was easier for her to converse and ask him questions and not make it easy for me to talk to her? I can't imagine she would actually be attracted to my friend but I guess it's a possibility I'm going to just be frank. You seem emotionally insecure. 6
Lernaean_Hydra Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Was there much of a chance this chick was just trying to make me jealous or did she almost surely not find any interest in me? Or was she not attracted to my friend so it was easier for her to converse and ask him questions and not make it easy for me to talk to her? No. She was either genuinely interested in the subject (and felt your friend was the more knowledgeable of the two of you) OR she was actually attracted to your friend. I'm not even sure how you could even draw the hope of a conclusion that she was trying to make you jealous from this interaction. Also, just because you don't think your friend is more attractive than you doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way. 1
Live_wire Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 OP, I think you do need to work on your jealousy and insecurity issues.
Author Stressus Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 Wow, you people are pretty pathetic. I was asking a simple question if girls generally do this or if she just wasn't interested and I get a lot of couch psychologist wannabe's who think they know my personality and who I am by reading one post. I see this site is a waste of time.
TaraMaiden Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 People's likes and dislikes are not anything you can control or 'diagnose'. She talked to him because she wanted to. The one person you really should ask is her. If you didn't, YOU lost the opportunity there and then. If she focused on him, yes, she was more interested in talking to him than you. Why exactly do you have a problem with that? What you consider ugly, others might not. What are you measuring his looks against? Yours? In that case, who's the one found wanting? Not him..... 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Wow, you people are pretty pathetic. I was asking a simple question if girls generally do this or if she just wasn't interested and I get a lot of couch psychologist wannabe's who think they know my personality and who I am by reading one post. I see this site is a waste of time. After 4 posts? You're probably right.... 3
Guy On The Couch Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Wow, you people are pretty pathetic. I was asking a simple question if girls generally do this or if she just wasn't interested and I get a lot of couch psychologist wannabe's who think they know my personality and who I am by reading one post. I see this site is a waste of time. So we are pathetic because you came to an online forum asking for advice? And now you know a lot about us because we are "couch psychologist wannabe's"? I never formed a conclusive opinion on your personality from one post. But once again I still stand by my original opinion. Emotionally insecure. And the reason I am standing by this is because it's apparent in your response. Just because you didn't get the answers you were looking for doesn't mean this site is a waste of time! 1
Mascara Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Why on earth does she have to be interested in EITHER of you? Maybe she was just interested in the topic. No wonder lots of women don't approach men much, some of you think we're always hitting on you. Even when we're ignoring you and talking to your friend 2
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Every random girl in the world wants you real bad, this is how they try to make you jealous. Better go back and ask her for digits. 2
TaraMaiden Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I read the thread title and thought it was a joke-opener, with a punchline to follow..... Guess I was mistaken. Or maybe.... not....!
oz-missy Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 So the girl decided to talk directly to your friend, whether it was flirting with him because she liked him or she was genuinely interested in the topic really has no bearing whatsoever to you. Stop being jelly - it's not an attractive look.
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