maestrok Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 This question probably has been asked a number of times already but I wanted to ask it again as adapted to my situation specifically. This guy and I work in the same company. We often saw each other at cafeteria or what not, and have been interested in each other for awhile (like a few months). We never had a "natural" chance to talk to each other until recently though. We finally met the other day and he asked me out on a first date (hasn't happened yet). I am attracted to him but I'm also a bit worried because he is, after all, a co-worker. People here LOVE to talk talk talk... about others' personal lives. We both know a lot of people around here and he lives with a few other co-workers (they are roommates). Do you think this is a big no-no? Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and ended up good/bad?
mhm407 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 In my experience, I have regretted dating a coworker every. single. time. Sorry :\ For me it has always become awkward, uncomfortable, or even downright painful to face them or hear about them every day after things didn't work out. 1
oz-missy Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 My current partner worked with his ex-wife. That's where they met. He dated a lot of women from work - it was just the thing that happened there. There wasn't awkwardness even after they broke up (gf's and the ex-wife) - he continued to work there for a number of years after the divorce. That place he worked at was pretty much akin to Melrose Place - people dated each other, people talked about each other. Talk is just that - talk. My SO now works in the same organisation as me. I've been here for years and he has recently come on board. Where I work, the gossip tree takes less than 5 mins to circulate around. I don't have an issue with it. People love to talk cr*p about others. If it's not about you and your love life it'll be something else. Once your goss isn't the hottest thing to talk about people will get over it and move onto the next hot topic.
newmoon Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 read the bazillion threads on LS that deal with this. it is a HUGE NO! if he's that wonderful and you're meant to be then pursue it once you and/or he has left the company. no good comes of dating a co-worker. really. 1
organizedchaos Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 As long as you're cool with the possibility that someone could lose their job over this if things go bad, someone can't take no for an answer, whatever...go for it. And before you say I'm being extreme, take a course on sexual harassment in the workplace first. I've been through many HR training sessions over the years. It CAN happen. And even if things don't get to this extreme. In the likely chance this doesn't end up in marriage, you sure you want to have to see them every day after a break up?
Recommended Posts