JimmyPizza Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Hi LoveShack. I have recently started talking to someone that I met at university, we can hold conversations all day as she is very easy to talk to/funny etc. She is fairly good looking and very much similar to me. Anyway one night whilst texting, we both agreed to tell each other how many people we had slept with. At first she was scared that it would be a turn off (it is) but in the end she told me. The answer was 10 whilst mine was 14. For some reason I have a ridiculous mentality in which I believe that my number doesn't matter and that I am somewhat innocent and yet I have slept with a lot more people, which is incredibly sexist or self-centered. To me, knowing that a lot of different guys have had sex with her makes me feel uneasy as I can get quite jealous. On the other hand I have no right to be as I am worse. She is very good at 'playing the game' and will tell me that I have competition which I also do not like. I believe that we shouldn't have to compete for someone as it shows that they like the attention from multiple people and I am not one to compete with other cocky guys. We sometimes don't text for a while, and I am awful at waiting it out because she has a very addictive personality. When we do text on the other hand, she constantly slips in sexual/flirtatious comments which I like but at the same time we have only met up a couple of times and have had no sexual contact at all, which leads me to think she would be easy to flirt with if I was another guy. We do know on the other hand that we're going to have sex in the future (the conversations just spell it out) but I don't know whether it is worth carrying on and potentially turning into a relationship. I would prefer to be with someone at the moment; rather than have a one time thing which she has agreed she wants as well. She told me that she is no longer having sex with anyone unless she at least likes them or is with them. This to be sounds debatable. Please help me out, much needed. Thanks!
moodswingz Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 News flash, you're a hypocrite, and a jack ass. You sound extremely insecure, which is not attractive. Get over it. That's your answer. 3
MuffMan6969 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 In my opionion sleeping with 10 guys is nothing, as long as it wasnt in the same night:) 1
Guy On The Couch Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Hi LoveShack. I have recently started talking to someone that I met at university, we can hold conversations all day as she is very easy to talk to/funny etc. She is fairly good looking and very much similar to me. Anyway one night whilst texting, we both agreed to tell each other how many people we had slept with. At first she was scared that it would be a turn off (it is) but in the end she told me. The answer was 10 whilst mine was 14. For some reason I have a ridiculous mentality in which I believe that my number doesn't matter and that I am somewhat innocent and yet I have slept with a lot more people, which is incredibly sexist or self-centered. To me, knowing that a lot of different guys have had sex with her makes me feel uneasy as I can get quite jealous. On the other hand I have no right to be as I am worse. She is very good at 'playing the game' and will tell me that I have competition which I also do not like. I believe that we shouldn't have to compete for someone as it shows that they like the attention from multiple people and I am not one to compete with other cocky guys. We sometimes don't text for a while, and I am awful at waiting it out because she has a very addictive personality. When we do text on the other hand, she constantly slips in sexual/flirtatious comments which I like but at the same time we have only met up a couple of times and have had no sexual contact at all, which leads me to think she would be easy to flirt with if I was another guy. We do know on the other hand that we're going to have sex in the future (the conversations just spell it out) but I don't know whether it is worth carrying on and potentially turning into a relationship. I would prefer to be with someone at the moment; rather than have a one time thing which she has agreed she wants as well. She told me that she is no longer having sex with anyone unless she at least likes them or is with them. This to be sounds debatable. Please help me out, much needed. Thanks! Check please!!!
oz-missy Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Hi LoveShack. I have recently started talking to someone that I met at university, we can hold conversations all day as she is very easy to talk to/funny etc. She is fairly good looking and very much similar to me. Anyway one night whilst texting, we both agreed to tell each other how many people we had slept with. At first she was scared that it would be a turn off (it is) but in the end she told me. The answer was 10 whilst mine was 14. For some reason I have a ridiculous mentality in which I believe that my number doesn't matter and that I am somewhat innocent and yet I have slept with a lot more people, which is incredibly sexist or self-centered. To me, knowing that a lot of different guys have had sex with her makes me feel uneasy as I can get quite jealous. On the other hand I have no right to be as I am worse. She is very good at 'playing the game' and will tell me that I have competition which I also do not like. I believe that we shouldn't have to compete for someone as it shows that they like the attention from multiple people and I am not one to compete with other cocky guys. We sometimes don't text for a while, and I am awful at waiting it out because she has a very addictive personality. When we do text on the other hand, she constantly slips in sexual/flirtatious comments which I like but at the same time we have only met up a couple of times and have had no sexual contact at all, which leads me to think she would be easy to flirt with if I was another guy. We do know on the other hand that we're going to have sex in the future (the conversations just spell it out) but I don't know whether it is worth carrying on and potentially turning into a relationship. I would prefer to be with someone at the moment; rather than have a one time thing which she has agreed she wants as well. She told me that she is no longer having sex with anyone unless she at least likes them or is with them. This to be sounds debatable. Please help me out, much needed. Thanks! So let me get this straight - you've slept with 4 more people than this girl yet it drives you to jealously that she's slept with 10 people??? People have pasts. People have sex. Get over it. If you can't get past this, then don't sleep with her, don't go out with her, don't even speak to her and cause her a headache dealing with your insecurities. In my opionion sleeping with 10 guys is nothing, as long as it wasnt in the same night:) And what's the problem if it is all in the same night? If it's between consenting adults why would that be a problem? All power to a girl who chooses to shag 10 guys in one night.
Grumpybutfun Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 You know this is ludicrous....don't be that guy. G
Sivok Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 The issue isn't on her end, man. If you're feeling jealous vibes and you haven't even done anything yet, then I suggest you move on before your emotions get further intertwined with her.
HokeyReligions Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 . She told me that she is no longer having sex with anyone unless she at least likes them or is with them. You have a number. No big deal. Its not even strange that you feel the way you do. Double-standards still exist. It sounds like you need to reconcile your feelings about numbers with reality. Or find a woman with fewer partners and doesn't care about your number. They are out there. What jumped out at me is your statement that she will no longer have sex with guys unless she at least likes them. That makes me think of her as some slutty back-ally whore who will spread her legs for anyone. Im hoping its just how you worded your post.
HokeyReligions Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 . She told me that she is no longer having sex with anyone unless she at least likes them or is with them. You have a number. No big deal. Its not even strange that you feel the way you do. Double-standards still exist. It sounds like you need to reconcile your feelings about numbers with reality. Or find a woman with fewer partners and doesn't care about your number. They are out there. What jumped out at me is your statement that she will no longer have sex with guys unless she at least likes them. That makes me think of her as some slutty back-ally whore who will spread her legs for anyone. Im hoping its just how you worded your post.
BradJacobs Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 She told me that she is no longer having sex with anyone unless she at least likes them or is with them. This to be sounds debatable. Please help me out, much needed. Thanks! Vaginal, anal or oral sex? Would it matter if she blew more than those 10 guys?
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