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My and my fiance broke up, we have a kid, and went our seperate ways at the end of October. Well recently things have been turning around it seems, I want to share and get feedback because its a little chaotic with her right now.

 

I did no contact, well mostly, and focused on my self for a few months. Dated other people, even got laid (yay I guess...). But we ended up hanging out in the middle of January and I opened up my feelings again for her. Anyways it was on and off for a while, in retrospect I know that she was involved with some other guy that ended up being a womanizer. Anyhow, we started talking a bit more not much, and then right before Valentines days she asked me if she could come to my city and spend it with me! Ohh hell yea you can girl! I got her a very pretty ring, and some handmade chocolates, a bit overkill but I love the girl. Anyways, the weekend went terrible, she ended up fighting with my mom (some very bad energy there), and we only spent the end of sunday together. It was nice, but far from back together.

 

We went back to our lives, and the very night I was driving back to my city of employment, she called me! She wanted to goto a Tool concert just me and her! I was pretty excited, and am still looking forward to doing this with her.

 

Well currently we are talking, though she isn't very affectionate she has given me a few words like "I care a lot bout my family, and I used to not think we were meant for each-other, but you have changed a lot, and I am beginning to wonder if there is a deeper connection with you". She tells me that if we get bak together right now there might be problems and shes worried bout that. "I care a lot about my family but I am hesitant, I want to make sure its right".

 

Strong words right? Well, in person we have a little bit of fun, she was a bit flirty, showing me her boobs and bouncing them around, I told her I was really turned on and we kinda just smiled at eachother, but we havnt really kissed (accept when I gave her that ring, but she almost didnt let me kiss her..). Still she can be very cold, she kicked me out of her birthday party this last weekend because she said I made her anxious and she just wanted to have a good time. That entire day she was actually acting very wierd. I confronted her about it, because I was feeling pretty upset and wanted to just end this all, but she ended up telling me she was upset that the last guy she was talking to was stalking her like CRAZY. I mean 100+ messages in an hour crazy.

 

Anyhow. What do you guys think. These last two weeks shes been being more open with me, should I be worried? Her friend tells me she thinks we will work out. So does a lot of other people I talk to, but still I need to vent on this forum lol. Thanks for reading this if you made it this far!!!

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She is definitely playing games with you.

 

Before she decides to get back she carefully makes sure to put you in the lowest status she can. that's why she will continue playing with you, sometimes humiliating you. so your mind will be set to her superiority.

 

Maybe it has something to do with the reason she broke up with you, I dont know.

 

As for you, it depends what is your price? Do you want her so bad so your value is ZERO on her market? do you like being a doormat? Or you can set at least some minimum price. like not being so puppy and available for her ALL THE TIME. Say NO sometimes. If she is talking to other guys now, you can do it too and tell her about your next date. (I think you should go dating anyway just to have some personality and proportion)

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You got your ex a ring for valentines day? Do you know how that sounds ?? It's awkward, why would you do such a thing... Anyhow she shows you her boobs and bounces them around in front of you ..... then you comfort her and suport her... again why???

 

I don't think it will work because she's just using you as an emotional support because things didn't went well between her and the `womanizer`. She's just playing games.

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