DirtDiver10 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 (edited) Hello All- I will try to keep this short but I want to get the correct details in. I want to say thanks to whoever reads and helps me out. I really appreciate it! So here is what is going on: My ex- girlfriend and I met about 4 months before we were both going to graduate college. We began dating and things were great. We both decided to try the long distance relationship. We live about 2 hours away from each other and we saw each other nearly every weekend. We dated long distance from May to December. Dated for a total of 11 months. This is when she ended things with me. It came as a surprise to me because we had been both been looking for jobs in the same area so we could move in together. We had talked about getting married (in the future once we were both settled) and we both found it to be a committed relationship. We both had been working very hard to find career jobs in our field and it wasn't going very well and I know that was really bothering her that she couldn't find anything. When she broke things off with me she said she still loved me but the whole long distance is too much for her, and that she needed to concentrate on just "her" for a while and not have to worry about how it would affect our relationship. I was crushed, but we talked things through and I asked if there would ever be a chance of us getting back together. Essentially, she said it was a possibility but she wouldn't say yes or no because she doesn't know what the future holds. The break up was an emotional one but there were no hard feelings. Things were amicable. So right after the breakup (early December) I made the mistake of agreeing to stay in contact. We eventually agreed to stop talking for a little bit. After a while we started texting a little. That turned into maybe texting 1-2 times a week from late december until now. She always mentions how she is glad I texted or she had fun talking. About 2-3 weeks ago she asked me to Skype and we ended up just talking for fun about stuff unrelated to our relationship for about 2 hours. It went really well. About a week ago I sent her a facebook message wishing her the best of luck on her upcoming test for a job and how I knew she was going to do great. At the end of the message I said "Miss you". She responded back saying thanks but didn't make any mention of the miss you part. Fast forward to yesterday I got a text from her saying how she wanted to thank me for being such an amazing guy and how she appreciates that more than I will ever know. She ended the text by saying she missed me and was thinking about me. I responded back and said how I appreciated what she said and how even though we aren't together I still really care for her and how I think she is amazing. Her response was it was really great to hear that. We then began talking via text for the rest of the night. During this text conversation (went for probably about 2-3 hours). We just talked about what was going on in each other's lives. Then she mentioned how she was going to be in my area to help her brother move into a new apartment and if I would want to get lunch or dinner with her. So I responded that sounded good and we should go to an italian place downtown we both like. She agreed and said that sounded fun. Later she asked me my opinion on what she should buy for her birthday outfit and I gave her my opinion but then told her how I know she would look absolutely beautiful and gorgeous in whatever she chose because she always does. She responded with "aww thanks, you are too sweet". The last thing that I found interesting in our text conversation is that she told me that I always make her feel better with a smiley face (because she had been feeling down that day). The conversation ended with her saying she was tired and was going to bed. Said she had a great time talking tonight and also thanked me for the nice things I said. Mentioned how she was looking forward to dinner in a couple weeks and said goodnight. I probably left a few details out from what happened from the breakup to now, but the most important stuff is in there. So my question to the people here is what their interpretation of this is? What do people here think about her motives of texting me and saying she misses me and then asking me to lunch or dinner? How do I proceed from here? Do I treat dinner as a date or just a get together as friends? Thanks for reading. Appreciate the advice. Edited February 24, 2014 by DirtDiver10
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