Michael 93 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 This post will not be for the faint hearted or people determined on not being bitter. Those who have read my story this one is for you. Finally feel a sense of achievement and much better for it. Feel as though I have inflicted a smidge of the hurt she has put me through. Since breaking up she has been nothing but horrible. She contacted me tonight wanting to talk about the actions that occured on the weekend (please see previous thread) we spoke and I poured my heart out to her explaining how down I was since the break up and why I was so upset. She spoke to me about her new partner and why he was so bothered with her on the weekend "because he saw her speaking to somebody else" she said she hated the time she spent with me and that "I was a s*** boyfriend and I changed her as a person, since she broke up with me people have noticed how much more confident she has become and how happy she is, called me a Wan*** and said we are over for good" I said im sorry for that I will always be there (but in the back of my mind i new i couldnt let that lie! No way!!) If you have read my story you will know that whilst we were together a model messaged me explaining she missed me and would like to meet up. She hated that and it really riled her up. Well tonight after the conversation She text me saying life's too short so enjoy it while you can (obviously being smarmy) so i replied with "I know it is remember I am always here. I have tried to take your advice and move on... In fact I met up with Emily since we split" she text back with WOW Emily you were texting whilst we were together!!!? She called me and stated she couldn't believe I had done it, she thought I was heartbroken and that was just a bag of lies. meeting up with the girl who was texting me when we were together you obviously must of been attracted to her!? Bare in mind this is the girl who has such a terrible Boyfriend. She said don't lie to me just tell me how it is. I didnt say anything and it ended with her saying I cannot believe this never speak to me again. At the end of the day I haven't lost anything as during the previous conversation she said we would never speak again anyway. And I should move on like she has. Telling me she goes out get some numbers and enjoy myself, me and her didn't work out and she would never come back again. She didn't love me and do sent care about us anymore.I feel alot better now after the way she has treated me and maybe she feels the pain I have felt for the last two months. Some people could literally shoot me down here. But to be honest this is the best I have felt in such a long time. I share my experience because someone somewhere will be in the same boat!! Should I feel as though I have won?
disclosure Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 In my eyes? I don't think so. But I am one of those people determined on not being bitter. Breaking up isn't a game. You have won when you are completely content, and at that point you don't even realise you have won because you no longer care what she thinks/about getting back at her or care about "winning". Telling her that might have stung a little bit, but other than that there isn't really much else to it. If this helps you drop everything and truly move on though, then that's good. Start no contact and start focusing on you. 2
Chi townD Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 She spoke to me about her new partner and why he was so bothered with her on the weekend "because he saw her speaking to somebody else" she said she hated the time she spent with me and that "I was a s*** boyfriend and I changed her as a person, since she broke up with me people have noticed how much more confident she has become and how happy she is, called me a Wan*** and said we are over for good" I said im sorry for that I will always be there (but in the back of my mind i new i couldnt let that lie! No way!!) If you have read my story you will know that whilst we were together a model messaged me explaining she missed me and would like to meet up. She hated that and it really riled her up. Well tonight after the conversation She text me saying life's too short so enjoy it while you can (obviously being smarmy) so i replied with "I know it is remember I am always here. I have tried to take your advice and move on... In fact I met up with Emily since we split" she text back with WOW Emily you were texting whilst we were together!!!? She called me and stated she couldn't believe I had done it, she thought I was heartbroken and that was just a bag of lies. meeting up with the girl who was texting me when we were together you obviously must of been attracted to her!? Bare in mind this is the girl who has such a terrible Boyfriend. She said don't lie to me just tell me how it is. I didnt say anything and it ended with her saying I cannot believe this never speak to me again. Seriously, will you stop talking to this bitch!!! Now, you're talking about this Emily chick that you probably lied about meeting up with. The only thing you did (YET AGAIN!) is to ease her guilt about what she did to you. Because, if you didn't noticed, she made it a point to tie this girl in WHILE you were in a relationship with her. THEREFORE, in her eyes, YOU were the one that cheated first. HENCE, now she doesn't have to feel guilty about anything that happened because YOU did it FIRST! Now, do me a favor. If you need to talk to a girl, call this Emily chick and NOT your Ex. GEEZ DUDE!!! Think!!!! 6
Zahara Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Not so much "won" but in a sense you seeked revenge and in your own version, achieved it. It would be best for you to cut all contact and move on with your life. There is no winning and losing. The best revenge is living well. Go live it. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 If you have to ask, you haven't won a thing. 1
Zahara Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Agree with Chi, now you look like the schmuck. You just kicked yourself.
legion113 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 If you still give a **** about what this woman who has treated you like crap feels or thinks, then NO, you haven't won, you've lost.
Author Michael 93 Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Chi you always murder me on here mannnnn lol. I know but the thing is she dosent give a rats ass anyway. Regardless of whether she feels guilty for what she has done she couldnt care less. And to be honest I felt It way my time to inflict a bit of emotional strain on her too. Yes its immature yes its bitter but I feel better knowing she will be the one sleeping at night thinking what has been going on and what has happened. Just for the record emily is actually real and I have met up with her since the breakup. me telling my ex this was basically my way of saying I am trying to move on. She has been heartless and horrible to me since the break up. Im sorry but I werent ready to let her walk over me. Chi I absolutely dread your replies man lol!!!
lauri Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Chi you always murder me on here mannnnn lol. I know but the thing is she dosent give a rats ass anyway. Regardless of whether she feels guilty for what she has done she couldnt care less. And to be honest I felt It way my time to inflict a bit of emotional strain on her too. Yes its immature yes its bitter but I feel better knowing she will be the one sleeping at night thinking what has been going on and what has happened. Just for the record emily is actually real and I have met up with her since the breakup. me telling my ex this was basically my way of saying I am trying to move on. She has been heartless and horrible to me since the break up. Im sorry but I werent ready to let her walk over me. Chi I absolutely dread your replies man lol!!! You aren't moving on because you are too busy trying to prove to her that you are. She was heartless and horrible...she isn't even worth your time. Dude, who cares if she "knows" you are moving on. All you have done is make yourself appear weak to her and seem like you have no self control. Want to show her you are moving on? You ignore her texts, block her and never talk to her again.
barky2 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Have you won? No. Here we go again with the temporary satisfaction,long term pain. Few days you'll come off your high of this and feel like ass. Then you'll apologize and she'll tell you where to shove it. Then we'll have another thread called " I'm a idiot" Dude just leave her be bro. Hit up Emily. Barky
deathandtaxes Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 What are you trying to win? I can't see that you've won a thing. If anything, you have lost your power.
Minneloa Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I predict your feeling of triumph will be short-lived. Honestly, there aren't really any shortcuts or secret tricks to getting over the pain of losing someone. Just time and NC, plus all the distractions you can muster. The sooner you cut off contact with your ex, the sooner you will start to heal. After all the drama you have put yourself through lately, aren't you ready for some peace & quiet & space?
Chi townD Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 (edited) Chi you always murder me on here mannnnn lol. I know but the thing is she dosent give a rats ass anyway. Regardless of whether she feels guilty for what she has done she couldnt care less. And to be honest I felt It way my time to inflict a bit of emotional strain on her too. Yes its immature yes its bitter but I feel better knowing she will be the one sleeping at night thinking what has been going on and what has happened. Just for the record emily is actually real and I have met up with her since the breakup. me telling my ex this was basically my way of saying I am trying to move on. She has been heartless and horrible to me since the break up. Im sorry but I werent ready to let her walk over me. Chi I absolutely dread your replies man lol!!! Dude, I will be your biggest fan and the president of the Michael93 Booster Club, if you only start making the right decision for yourself. You've done things YOUR way and look where that's got ya. Slapped in the face, a girl that won't even admit that you were at the club, flirt openly with other guys infront of you. Stated that she hated the time she spent with you, and finally called you a wanker (which I guess in England, that's not a good thing.) and you're just telling her that you'll always be there for her.....I was about to puke when I read that. Now, read that paragraph above and then compare it to the model that says she missed you and WANTED to spend time with you. Taking this Emily out on the town and having a model on your arm. Making her laugh, having a good time. I don't know about you, but out of those two girls, which one sounds more inviting? Edited February 25, 2014 by Chi townD 2
Meatpuppet Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 You are a mess. You clearly aren't ready to be in a serious relationship if your goal is to "win" what a joke
Trep Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Oh Chi_townD, I sincerely wish I could buy you a beer sometimes. 2
Author Michael 93 Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Have you won? No. Here we go again with the temporary satisfaction,long term pain. Few days you'll come off your high of this and feel like ass. Then you'll apologize and she'll tell you where to shove it. Then we'll have another thread called " I'm a idiot" Dude just leave her be bro. Hit up Emily. Barky @barky 2 Just finished reading your thread barky didnt even realise you had commented on one of mine! You have very very good insight my man. Thank you for that. I havent yet gone down that route and apologised to her. I know its bitter but I automatically feel slightly better knowing she will experience a bit of wonder. Still miss her like hell and hate the fact she is happy with somebody else. I hope one day she will realise how much I love her!
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