BlessYourCottonSocks Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Let's say you've been dating someone for a long time 2+ years...or maybe not even that long...whatever the case. Is it normal for your boyfriend/husband to ask you for pictures of your vagina or full body naked pictures and to tell you all the dirty things they want to do to you when they see you next? Or do they just say this to girls they don't care about and just want to use? ie. I can't wait to stick my tongue inside you and rub your g-spot and make you wet. Send me a picture of your beautiful vagina! Do you think they say those things because you are just a walking vagina to them or is this because they are so turned on by you or is it just the typical behavior of men? Do some men just have really high sexual appetites? I'm not talking about FWB's or **** buddies, I'm talking about men in long term relationships. Is this normal/okay behavior? For the girls on here, would you like this?
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 You women with your silly questions. You ask this question, and I'm willing to bet that you, or a girlfriend you knew/know, once had a poster of a man with chiseled abs on the wall. Maybe he was just a model, or maybe he was a celebrity. Either way, it promotes the "fantasy" department. If not, I know there have been plenty of women who have had posters of half naked men. Even so, women like movies with men that walk around without shirts on and chiseled abs. It doesn't take a genius to figure out how women work, and it doesn't take a genius to figure out how men work. It's actually relatively simple to understand the opposite gender, but we tend to like making things complicated. Almost every question women ask about men can be answered by answering the question in a woman's perspective. ALMOST EVERY QUESTION. There are many women who enjoy having sexual pictures of their partners are who JUST AS LIKELY to send sext messages. Just because they enjoy sexual pictures doesn't mean a woman doesn't take the man romantically seriously -- it just means that she loves his penis as well. Can women use men for sex? Absolutely. Can men use women for sex? Absolutely. Do both send naked pictures back and forth? Maybe men send more, but that doesn't mean women don't. I'll show you mine, if you show me yours.
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Goodness. Feel relieved that you got that off your chest, eh? You women with your silly questions. You ask this question, and I'm willing to bet that you, or a girlfriend you knew/know, once had a poster of a man with chiseled abs on the wall. Maybe he was just a model, or maybe he was a celebrity. Either way, it promotes the "fantasy" department. If not, I know there have been plenty of women who have had posters of half naked men. Even so, women like movies with men that walk around without shirts on and chiseled abs. It doesn't take a genius to figure out how women work, and it doesn't take a genius to figure out how men work. It's actually relatively simple to understand the opposite gender, but we tend to like making things complicated. Almost every question women ask about men can be answered by answering the question in a woman's perspective. ALMOST EVERY QUESTION. There are many women who enjoy having sexual pictures of their partners are who JUST AS LIKELY to send sext messages. Just because they enjoy sexual pictures doesn't mean a woman doesn't take the man romantically seriously -- it just means that she loves his penis as well. Can women use men for sex? Absolutely. Can men use women for sex? Absolutely. Do both send naked pictures back and forth? Maybe men send more, but that doesn't mean women don't. I'll show you mine, if you show me yours.
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Goodness. Feel relieved that you got that off your chest, eh? Did it answer your question, or do you need me to elaborate more on it?
xxoo Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I'm sure not all men do it, but many enjoy having sexy photos of their partner, yes. In this digital age, I feel compelled to add that trust should be VERY high for this kind of sharing. We're so old, ours are Polaroid 6
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Did it answer your question, or do you need me to elaborate more on it? Basically I just wanted to know your OWN opinion. If you were to ask your long term gf for a pic of her vagina and talk dirty to her while at work, does that mean you are using her or you just actually are turned on by her?
BDL Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 In a long-term with my girlfriend, when I'm away from her for an extended period of time, I always ask to see her pussy when we facetime, and I express my wish to eat her out. When we are together, I always like to go down on her, but she'll sometimes refuse when she doesn't feel clean. On the rare occasion, she'll mount on my face after a shower, and I always love that. I guess every guy is different. If a guy is really in love with his girlfriend and still attracted to her, he'll want to be near/around/insider her pussy most of the time. 1
mukkrakker Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Do some men… Are bears catholic? (Be thankful, I could have chosen the other version) Is this normal/okay That's for you to decide - if you don't like it, and it sounds like you don't, tell him...
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 (edited) Basically I just wanted to know your OWN opinion. If you were to ask your long term gf for a pic of her vagina and talk dirty to her while at work, does that mean you are using her or you just actually are turned on by her? I got confused because you titled your post with potential over-generalizing. "Do ALL men do this?" In very few circumstances can you answer a question that consists of the word "all" with a yes. Do ALL people die? So far, yes. Do all children live past 80? No. Do ALL women want long-term relationships? No. Do ALL women identify as women? Nope. So basically, you already know the answer to your question. In fact, I could even have said "no" without even knowing what "this" is. When you gather men's perspective on your questions, you're going to get diverse answers. When you're given 100 opinions, including my own, you're going to come to the realization that there is no such thing as just one answer. I'm not trying to mock you or anything -- I'm really just trying to help you understand that you don't need my opinion, as a male, to answer questions for men. Ideally, you could ask the same questions in the female perspective and come up with the same answers. For the sake of post, I'll answer your questions though. First, we have to establish what is considered "normal." A foot fetish is what we consider normal, but you and I might find it weird if a partner starts licking my feet and worshipping it. What is considered normal to you, might not be considered normal to me. Because men and women are so diverse, with their DNA and stuff, people are going to like different things for different reasons. In my perspective, it is completely normal to ask for a picture of a woman's vagina. In fact, I'd prefer a picture of a woman bending over in a skirt (I'm more of an butt kind of guy). That's just how I roll, though. Doggy-style all the way. A picture of a vagina will certainly suffice. It's definitely something to look at and helps my imagination run wild when I get down to the fine details. I also like sending dirty messages to the women I'm sexually interested in. Am I only willing to send dirty messages and ask for dirty pictures because I "don't care" about her since I'm just using her? Of course not. Just because you "use" someone doesn't mean you don't care about them. When a man and woman have a one-night stand, they're essentially using each other for sexual satisfaction -- that doesn't mean they don't care about the other person. It means that they mutually consent to using each other, and nothing more. I'm willing to talk dirty to women I would be willing to die for, just like I'd be willing to talk to dirty women I'd be willing to f*** right in the middle of a grocery aisle. Do some men have high sexual appetites? Well, of course. Women do as well. Women do a lot of things that men do for the same reason, it's just that society hasn't completely accepted the idea that women like sex and not that innocent either. Women just tend to hide those aspects better than men do because men don't have that social pressure to hide their desires for babes in cheerleader outfits, while women can't really express their sexual desires without coming off at a "slut." Edited February 24, 2014 by TheyCallMeOx
Tayken Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 @OP..... EWWW....gawd NO and "not all men", it will seem you have a weirdo / freak on your hands...I mean how old are you two? What am I supposed to do with a picture of that nastiness, take it to the bank and make a 401k contribution? Lets stop all this..."all men" madness, please 1
pteromom Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 The answer is that some guys will ask because they think of you as a walking vagina, and others will ask because they love or are attracted to you and you turn them on, and others wouldn't think of asking something like that at all. There is no "normal". If it isn't something you are comfortable with, it is ok to tell your partner no. If he has a bad reaction to your discomfort, that tells you more about him than his thoughts on vagina-pics. 3
Tayken Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 And then it ends up on social media.......you have no case if things go awry, you willingly distributed what can be considered porn, and can end up with a record. People have to use their head before they do stupid things like this, this can come back to hunt you if you ever find yourself running for an important job/position 2
guest572 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I think that would be extremely creepy, no I would not like this. Sexy talk and dirty texts fine but asking for nude pics? Thats weird. If you are in a long term relationship and can see each other naked all the time, why photos?
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 It would be difficult to get a photo of your vagina for a partner... your vulva, sure. Your vagina? Are we talking internal cams? Sorry OP. Pet hate of mine that people mix vulva and vagina. Unless you actually did mean your literal vagina... Um anyway. Yeah basically it's normal to request nude photos of your partner. It just depends on the guy and the dynamic of the relationship. I've had boyfriends who have gratefully received nude pics (usually only in underwear though, and the actual naked ones were done so I can't be identified... in case they ever get out), but I don't think anyone has ever actually asked or pushed me for them. Most of the guys I've dated, even when we've had extreme sexual compatibility, would see it as an issue of respect, and wouldn't want to risk me feeling disrespected by asking for those photos. Everyone knows what a massive risk it is to take or send photos like that. 1
Salvatore85 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Oh socks, please tell me you didn't get back with that dude? I saw you post in the break up section a lot... 2
amaysngrace Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I want to know if you made an appointment with your doctor today, Cotton Socks?
iris219 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I have to say I have never, ever had a man ask me send him a pic of my vagina.
Grumpybutfun Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Let's say you've been dating someone for a long time 2+ years...or maybe not even that long...whatever the case. Is it normal for your boyfriend/husband to ask you for pictures of your vagina or full body naked pictures and to tell you all the dirty things they want to do to you when they see you next? Or do they just say this to girls they don't care about and just want to use? ie. I can't wait to stick my tongue inside you and rub your g-spot and make you wet. Send me a picture of your beautiful vagina! Do you think they say those things because you are just a walking vagina to them or is this because they are so turned on by you or is it just the typical behavior of men? Do some men just have really high sexual appetites? I'm not talking about FWB's or **** buddies, I'm talking about men in long term relationships. Is this normal/okay behavior? For the girls on here, would you like this? Who in the heck are you dating? This is whack...and I can't imagine any woman taking this drivel seriously. Unless you are married or in a LTR meaning five, ten or more years, no one should be trusted with pics of you naked and they sure as heck shouldn't be treating their woman like a vagina. What is he doing? Showing his friends? I can't imagine treating my wife of twenty years like a walking vagina which is what this sounds like. Don't do this, ever, it isn't healthy for a relationship, Grumps 4
BradJacobs Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Basically I just wanted to know your OWN opinion. If you were to ask your long term gf for a pic of her vagina and talk dirty to her while at work, does that mean you are using her or you just actually are turned on by her? Turned on. I do these things all the time but then again I have never been with someone who doesn't turn me on that way. Do for me this is normal.
OpheliaSong Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 No pictures of my vagina but talking dirty is okay. I am very distrustful of guys who want naked pics since all the news came out about men who published or sent them to employers of their exes or their mothers. Even if it is your vagina and there is no pic of your face, just that they have it and could send it regardless of whether or not it could be corroborated makes you look foolish and desperate. Why do you ask, bless? 1
ThaWholigan Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Short answer: No. Long answer: A lot of guys certainly do have high sexual appetites and in some cases, men certainly are turned on by their partners and talk dirty to them. With naked pics, you gotta be careful. I have received quite a few from girls I've been with and even girls I haven't. I'm fortunate to be trusted with them because a lot of guys I know are quite liberal with them. I never explicitly ask - I will accept if offered. Talking dirty and letting her know that you're turned on by them, and other such things? Cool. Asking? Depends.
Tayken Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Who in the heck are you dating? This is whack...and I can't imagine any woman taking this drivel seriously. Unless you are married or in a LTR meaning five, ten or more years, no one should be trusted with pics of you naked and they sure as heck shouldn't be treating their woman like a vagina. What is he doing? Showing his friends? I can't imagine treating my wife of twenty years like a walking vagina which is what this sounds like. Don't do this, ever, it isn't healthy for a relationship, Grumps Aye Aye Grumpy...true enough mate, but you know as well as I do that some women are only just too happy to oblige to such requests. I mean if they are doing it, how can they tell their teenage daughter not to do such things? I personally don't get my rocks off in such manner, never have and will never ask a woman to send me pics of parts of her anatomy.....not interested in such pics, and I wouldn't want to be an accessory to the distribution of PORN I want to know if you made an appointment with your doctor today, Cotton Socks? Hmmm.....
iris219 Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Personally, I would be seriously turned off by a man asking for naked pics and would refuse to do so.
FitChick Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 I'll show you mine, if you show me yours. That brings back memories of me as a child, going into the woods with the little neighbor boy. He showed me his. I took a look and ran off giggling!
I_Like_To_Golf Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 (edited) My ex (1 year relationship) use to send me nude photos of herself while I was at work without me even asking for them. Must admit, I did enjoy the photos and it definitely set the mood for when I got home haha. I would never ask her for nude photos though just out of respect for her, but when she did send them, it always left me wanting more haha. Never shared the photos with my friends and deleted them after she broke up with him. But I do have a few male friends that share the nude photos with me of girls they're talking to. So there's always that risk Edited February 26, 2014 by I_Like_To_Golf
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