lvroflife Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Been NC for 2 weeks now! The last 2 days really been trying... The urges to break NC are so strong that it has made me go to bed fairly early! Just so I won't break! I feel like a piece of me is gone!! I know she misses me and is thinking about me, and that is the tough part... I thank all of you on here for chiming in and sharing your stories!! It has helped a lot!! Thinking you met someone you actually want to devote your life too and commit and do right by her and she get's scared of it... WTH!! Just had to vent this!! 1
KevinC Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 I feel you man, ive been doing the same, never went to bed so early in my life. Dont break, 2 weeks is very good im sure it feels more like 2 months when you are missing that special someone. Im one week in and struggling as well. As someone here has told me just try and get thru today tomorrow might be easier. Good on you !!!
Meatpuppet Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Nights are usually the worst time of day. I feel you man. I've been NC for 4 months, Broken up 5. Not a day goes by where i don't think about my ex and wonder what she's doing or if she's thinking about me or when she'll contact me and any number of other things. It helps to refocus though on other aspects of your life rather than dwelling on such thoughts. Stay strong.
Author lvroflife Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 Worst part is how the break up happened!! Out of no where!! No signs or anything of it
LoveAtWork Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Worst part is how the break up happened!! Out of no where!! No signs or anything of it If there's one thing I learned, it's don't do that. I had a 6 year relationship end and it crushed me for a long time but as always, it does get better. Just try to stay doing stuff you enjoy so that you're smiling.. don't mope around or watch sad movies. It gets better.
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Last night my ex reached out to me... Her text "Happy you made it to Vegas!!!!Enjoy I pondered for hours what to do... I just said "ty" WTH!! 10 minute Before that text she was on my FB age and liked a pic I put up 4 days ago!! Needless to say she is now BLOCKED
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 It has been 2 weeks since my break up and 1 day since my ex broke NC... As sure as some of you have seen in some of my other posts today, She reached out to me last night. She liked a post I put up 4 days ago, and then later last night saod She was happy I was visiting somewhere I've never been. Yesterday was a tough day and this morning I have been struggling.. I cried quite few times yesterday and today I have not been motivated to do anything.. I want to cry but it won't come out. I feel like she used me, I feel like she never loved me, I feel like she is coming back, I feel like she wants to reach out, I feel like she misses me, I feel like she does not miss me, I feel like curling up in a ball, I feel like scearming, I feel angry, I feel sad, I feel like I was convienent, I feel like smiling, I feel like doing nothing, I feel like reaching out to her (but Iwon't and know that is not a good idea), I want to go see her face to face, I want to do all the things that a dumpee is not suppose to do, I want to do all the things she and I use to do, My mind is mush and everywhere.. I have been avoiding phone calls, and texts all day, and just want to be numb!! I've prayed a few times... and I know he hears me..
somecamel Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 It has been 2 weeks since my break up and 1 day since my ex broke NC... As sure as some of you have seen in some of my other posts today, She reached out to me last night. She liked a post I put up 4 days ago, and then later last night saod She was happy I was visiting somewhere I've never been. Yesterday was a tough day and this morning I have been struggling.. I cried quite few times yesterday and today I have not been motivated to do anything.. I want to cry but it won't come out. I feel like she used me, I feel like she never loved me, I feel like she is coming back, I feel like she wants to reach out, I feel like she misses me, I feel like she does not miss me, I feel like curling up in a ball, I feel like scearming, I feel angry, I feel sad, I feel like I was convienent, I feel like smiling, I feel like doing nothing, I feel like reaching out to her (but Iwon't and know that is not a good idea), I want to go see her face to face, I want to do all the things that a dumpee is not suppose to do, I want to do all the things she and I use to do, My mind is mush and everywhere.. I have been avoiding phone calls, and texts all day, and just want to be numb!! I've prayed a few times... and I know he hears me.. You can't expect to be healed after two weeks my friend. I haven't read your other posts so don't know the history but believe me when i say it will get easier I promise you. From what you put above, her reaching out to you looks like Breakcrumbs and you can't let yourself be taken in by this, I did and it just resets everything, you've done two weeks already, keep it going, if she wants you she will tell you straight. Be strong
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 I am trying to, and I thnk you for the words! It is tough!
somecamel Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I am trying to, and I thnk you for the words! It is tough! It is tough, it's almost like there is no way away from the pain, even when you go and hide yourself away from the world you can't hide yourself away from your thoughts. But this is the only way we learn with the heart, the hard way, we need this to move onto better relationships where you can understand mistakes of the past and make sure you don't repeat them
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Exactly I did all the complete opposite in this relationship from my last one... Funny thing is I should have been doing the things from my former relationship in this one
somecamel Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Exactly I did all the complete opposite in this relationship from my last one... Funny thing is I should have been doing the things from my former relationship in this one Well you got your women mixed around then:) Just make sure the next one you meet you work out how to work out what they want and if you do I'm pretty sure you'll be able to sell the rights to it and become a millionaire:)
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Thanks!! I just hate that I still want her back! Sad thing is she is so scared to let me get close and pushes me away due to her upbringing.. I am realizing I was trying to be her savior..
somecamel Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Thanks!! I just hate that I still want her back! Sad thing is she is so scared to let me get close and pushes me away due to her upbringing.. I am realizing I was trying to be her savior.. I just had a quick read of your story and dude you really did give this girl too much, you went too far the other way I think. I learn't a long time ago to never give anyone everything, when you do this you have nothing left to give. You obviously threw yourself head first into this relationship when she was trying to sort out her career, you can't blame her for that, I would imagine with the upbringing she had she wants to be better than her parents and that is her drive in life. Do you want her back or can you let go?
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 I wan her back! I spoke with some female friends and did some soul searching and realized that I gave to much and should have slowed down... She has always said to me there is no question in her mind I will make a great partner and she would never worry about me treating her wrong.. My prior relationship I didnt do have those things I was on whatever! She loved everything I did but I just gave to fast! I realize that... And just wish she would try again and I can slow it down. But I don't know how to get her back
Author lvroflife Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 I have never (at least I feel) done anything to steer her away from her career.. She always said thank you for supporting me and my dream and allowing me to focus on work..
Author lvroflife Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I have had days where I am confident then I have had days where I do not want to do anything, not leave my house, shower, nothing... I have days where all I can think about is her, and days where I am angry... I have days where I don't want her back and days where I want her.. I pray daily and some days I pray to just get me through this and I know why it is this way, then other days where I say if you bring her back I will do XYZ. I have days where I want to be around people and days where I do not want tobe bother... Bottom Line, I feel like I am going through all the stages at once, except the most important one= ACCEPTANCE!!
Popsicle Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 How long has it been? It's been 4 months for me and I still think about him daily but today is the first day I'm starting to accept that its really over and never was meant to be. It's a more peaceful stage.
Author lvroflife Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 It has only been 2 weeks, but feels a lot shorter sometimes and a lot longer at others... She reached out to me the other day... breadcrumbs and it set me back... I thought this was who I was going to marry... trying to dive into distractions but it is not working... and I know it is due to the way the break up happened.. just so many questions
bubblesbursted Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 It has only been 2 weeks, but feels a lot shorter sometimes and a lot longer at others... She reached out to me the other day... breadcrumbs and it set me back... I thought this was who I was going to marry... trying to dive into distractions but it is not working... and I know it is due to the way the break up happened.. just so many questions Someone once told me the stages of grieving keep repeating. Its like a vicious circle. The stages of grieving will keep repeating themselves until you are totally healed. I am sorry to see you suffering. . Keep doing other things than you usually do, maybe that will happen. For instance , if after waking up you lay on the bed and think , then dont. Instead get up straight away go out and take a walk or do something else. Hope this helps! 3
barky2 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 It has only been 2 weeks, but feels a lot shorter sometimes and a lot longer at others... She reached out to me the other day... breadcrumbs and it set me back... I thought this was who I was going to marry... trying to dive into distractions but it is not working... and I know it is due to the way the break up happened.. just so many questions As bubble said is 100% spot on. It will repeat , especially if it's only been 2 weeks. Sounds like you haven't got past the denial stage,somewhat one foot into the bargaining stage. Kept telling yourself it's over. You have to put in the work and the time . Time is the key here. Things will get better that I promise. One day you'll wake up with indifference, I can't tell you what day exactly that is, but it's happened to me, and every single member in the past. Just grit your teeth and keep fighting. Barky 1
Author lvroflife Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Thank you guys! Everyday I do wake up and think! But today after I though I bought classes for kcik boxing and am going to buy running snearkers so I can start running everyday! I do have to force myself to move... I am also going to hire a trainer to get more fit!! LIVE A BETTER FULL LIFE 1
Author lvroflife Posted March 2, 2014 Author Posted March 2, 2014 Please help!! I've been 3weeks NC, and I am feeling very anxious and antsy to reach out!! I went for a jog, I've been trying to do whatever to shake the feeling, but I am strugglig right now!!
4everalones Posted March 2, 2014 Posted March 2, 2014 Please help!! I've been 3weeks NC, and I am feeling very anxious and antsy to reach out!! I went for a jog, I've been trying to do whatever to shake the feeling, but I am strugglig right now!! I am so sorry you're hurting. I am in the same boat. Please don't give up, don't break NC. I learned the hard way. We've been broken up for months and I just started NC again (I'm on day 10 now). Please please do not reach out to her, especially when you're emotional and vulnerable. You're only going to get hurt. Trust me, I have been hurt and sent back to square one way too many times. It's hard, but getting through these hard times is what's keeping us going. It will get easier. We're here to support you!
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