Okaylouisa Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I have been broken up with my ex for about 8 months now and we were together for 3 years, we are each others first loves so that makes things even more difficult, before Christmas he told me he still loves me and wants to meet with me but it never happened as he kept making excuses so in the end I just completely blocked him off. Until Saturday night where he was repeatedly drunk calling me, I tried to ignore them but in the end I gave in and answered. He was saying to me how he wants us to be able to be friends, but he was also saying how he had tried to date other girls but none of them were 'me' he said he had to end things because he looked at them and they weren't me. I know he was drunk and everything but I still hoped there was some meaning behind his words. So yesterday I went round to his and we ended up sleeping together, I thought being 'friends with benefits' would help me to get closer to him but when I got home he ended things 'before they end up getting too far' I know he doesn't want me but I thought that if there was still some feelings there I could work on it. I only realised afterwards how much I truly miss and love him but I feel like **** as I feel like his feelings for me are gone. I feel like we need to talk about what has happened and tell him how I feel about him because I really don't think I'll be able to move on from this until I do. I miss him and love him so much and he doesn't care.
barky2 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Every time you sleep with him while you guys aren't together, he looses a bit of respect for you. If you're giving him the goods without a relationship, there's no point in being in one. Best thing for you to do is, instead of getting all emotional with him and telling him how bad it's hurt you ect is just to simply say hey thAt was fun, but you're focusing on yourself and that won't happen again. I'm sure he'll agree (bs) and wish you well. So you need to remember how you felt after y'all got done knocking skins and how bad you felt next time he reaches out for a quickie. Chin up. Barky 3
d0nnivain Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Talking isn't going to change things. He doesn't love you enough to restart a relationship with you. Continuing to sleep with him won't change his mind. For your own sanity stop talking to him, unfriend him from all social media & move on with your life. The more you keep in touch the harder it will be to move on & the longer it will take to heal. Yes, you were each other's firsts & he will therefore always hold a special place in your memory but he's not your future.
Zahara Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I feel like we need to talk about what has happened and tell him how I feel about him because I really don't think I'll be able to move on from this until I do. I miss him and love him so much and he doesn't care. No need to talk anymore. He's already told you how he feels. Sex won't change it. Talking won't change it. You move on because he's told you he doesn't feel the same anymore. Telling him how you feel won't change how he feels.
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