loopsy Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Is conversation that difficult? I've been approached by a couple of men who are probably nice guys, but the conversation doesn't get off the ground. They say, "hi". If I don't ask questions, there are huge awkward silences. To me, conversation involves a give and take. I hate being the quizmaster. I've started to just drift away on the first awkward silence. I see people on here asking how to approach someone. Why not just ask "How was your day?" If you're asked the same back, try to give more than a one word answer. It has to be more than "hi" whether it's OLD, at a bar, or at work. Saying how was your day or asking about something is not really the risk it seems to feel like. How many times do you ask someone you're not attracted to about their day or something going on around them? Asking the mail delivery person if they're having a good day is no big deal right? It only feels like a risk because you're feeling sexual tension.
Silver93 Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Is conversation that difficult? I've been approached by a couple of men who are probably nice guys, but the conversation doesn't get off the ground. They say, "hi". If I don't ask questions, there are huge awkward silences. To me, conversation involves a give and take. I hate being the quizmaster. I've started to just drift away on the first awkward silence. I see people on here asking how to approach someone. Why not just ask "How was your day?" If you're asked the same back, try to give more than a one word answer. It has to be more than "hi" whether it's OLD, at a bar, or at work. Saying how was your day or asking about something is not really the risk it seems to feel like. How many times do you ask someone you're not attracted to about their day or something going on around them? Asking the mail delivery person if they're having a good day is no big deal right? It only feels like a risk because you're feeling sexual tension. In my experience I have found that I try really hard to talk and elaborate on my points when talking to the girls I have liked but I regularly seem to have to run the conversation. It usually dents my confidence because I feel that the girls have no interest in me.
Anna2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I find the same issue when I talk to women on dating sites. This is after they give me their number.....so obviously they are interested. But when I call and try to talk to them, many of them are like dead weight and I have to carry them. Its not a gender thing....its the fact that they probably arent that sociable....hence the reason they are using a dating site instead of meeting people in public. I am not open and sociable with strangers. But if a woman is interested in talking to me, I will totally open up to her. I can and do talk about everything under the sun. I constantly receive dead-end responses from the guys I like. No questions back, no elaboration, nothing. When you take this as a sign of them being not interested, the next day you get another one-liner.
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