David87 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Guess what she just send you another breadcrumb. Only respond when she says "I made a mistake, I love you and want you back" 1
Author davedub16 Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 thanks dave this is what i thought she was doing il keep with no contact might make her regret her actions if not its good for me not reply
Author davedub16 Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 why cant she just move on and leave me be i mean if shes over things and wants to move on why send me a message like that 1
David87 Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 Because she only thinks about her feelings, not yours. If you respond she gets a huge ego boost. 2
bubblesbursted Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I totally agree with David..Ignore her message until she says she wants you back. Its just a breadcrumb. 1
somecamel Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 My ex text me on V day 'Happy Valentines day', that really ****ed my head up
Author davedub16 Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 did you reply? yeh i wont be replying until she says she wants me back! i think she now feels cos i dont reply that shes 200% lost me which is nearly true at this stage
somecamel Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 did you reply? yeh i wont be replying until she says she wants me back! i think she now feels cos i dont reply that shes 200% lost me which is nearly true at this stage I did reply after I had stewed over it for 6 hours lol I couldn't believe she would even text me that, all i said was 'Why would you even send me that', she said sorry and it ****ed my head over again bloody woman lol. I'm strong NC at the moment, I'm not entertaining small talk, I won't let myself be hurt again. I have other bits we need to sort out but I'll do the bare minimum in contact now and ignore the breadcrumbs.
Author davedub16 Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 so you replied and she threw you more breadcrumbs? what an idiot i hope she comes back and you can tell her no
somecamel Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 so you replied and she threw you more breadcrumbs? what an idiot i hope she comes back and you can tell her no It's one of many stories at the moment:) she's coming this Saturday to sort out her stuff, I'm going out:)
Author davedub16 Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 another message tonight Why did you come up to me that night ...... she wants control of the situation and isnt getting it with me...is this another breadcrumb
somecamel Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 another message tonight Why did you come up to me that night ...... she wants control of the situation and isnt getting it with me...is this another breadcrumb She's just trying to make contact to pull you back in and massage her ego. If you're going to reply do it tomorrow when you've had chance to think about it
David87 Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Yeah it's another breadcrumb. Why don't you block her number? I know it's hard but I think that you're still hoping to get back together. Let her go for good, girls can sense this kind of things.
Author davedub16 Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 yeh i suppose part of me is which is stupid ..... i know there breadcrumbs and if she was serious about us or getting back she would say something significant which i think will come but your right i need to move on for myself thank you 1
Author davedub16 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 hey im finding it tough today bubblebursted im fighting the urge to not reply and part of me was like maybe she wants me to reach out ask to meet for a coffee or something.... i need to realise those 3 txts were breadcrumbs which i hope... i feel sorry for her as she had depression when we broke up but i need to stay strong and not reply to look after myself
bubblesbursted Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 No she doesnt want to contact you! She was the dumper, if she wants to be with you she will contact you. Dont contact her Dave! Keep holding on.
David87 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 hey im finding it tough today bubblebursted im fighting the urge to not reply and part of me was like maybe she wants me to reach out ask to meet for a coffee or something.... i need to realise those 3 txts were breadcrumbs which i hope... i feel sorry for her as she had depression when we broke up but i need to stay strong and not reply to look after myself When you have the urge to reach out just post here and don't feel bad for ignoring her breadcrumbs because she didn't when she dumped you.
a708 Posted February 27, 2014 Posted February 27, 2014 This thread has helped me out a lot guys. Thanks. Stupid breadcrumbs!
Author davedub16 Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 thank you i appreciate the posts im going to stay strong and move on... we both agreed on the break up to be honest but when i tried to meet to resolve things she was cold and didnt want to meet as it "was too hard and too soon" but i reached out so if she wants to she needs to but im hurt at this stage i think anyway
Author davedub16 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 finding it tough today as as ive stayed strong and no contact to last few fb mails i dont understand why my ex has liked another pic of me on instagram in the last week there yesterday ..... part of me wanted to text but no theres no point
David87 Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 Try removing yourself from social media for awhile because every single ''like'' will set you back. And don't text her or like her photos etc.
Author davedub16 Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 i just dont understand with these breadcrumbs and now liling my instagram photos are doing for her and what shes trying to achieve?! she should be annoyed or frustrated im not talking to her and want to leave me be
somecamel Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 She's making sure she is keeping her in your mind and as long as she does that you won' be able to move on, it's cruel but we all do it. I'm sure she is hurting as well, we can't forget regardless of what these people did to us they are still only human and they will be grieving as well. As above, the best thing you can do it remove yourself or at least block her from Social Media. Man I remember when I was a kid all I had to do was avoid the park to keep NC:) 1
Simon Phoenix Posted February 28, 2014 Posted February 28, 2014 (edited) You need to block her on your phone and on social media. It's good that you are not responding, but you are getting all messed up by her trying to communicate with you. If you block her, you won't even know if she's attempting to contact you. Edited February 28, 2014 by Simon Phoenix 1
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