KathyM Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 You wouldn't call it a problem but most women are turned off by that. Women with your attitude are very uncommon and are vvery rarely single, doubly so if they're good looking. That's just the world we live in. I'd keep it to yourself OP. Women simply want what other women want. It's nature. All of the women on this thread said low numbers wouldn't matter to them. Some even said they would have a preference for a guy who had low numbers. It's mostly men who think they have to have high numbers for women to want them. That's just not the case for most women. 2
ascendotum Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 All of the women on this thread said low numbers wouldn't matter to them. Some even said they would have a preference for a guy who had low numbers. It's mostly men who think they have to have high numbers for women to want them. That's just not the case for most women. The women on LS who no way would go out with a guy like this will tend to stay out of the thread (or not even be on LS giving advice). I agree with Lino, that much more women would find this off putting than be fine with it. Most don't want a man whore (for a bf anyway), but this guy is at the other end of the spectrum, which also makes women uncomfortable (they prefer MOR). A guy with just a few women as LTRs is fine for lots of women, but single for 10 yrs will turn off many or be treated as a red flag and if a single woman around his age is pretty she will have lots of options and well be inclined to bypass him for a safer bet even though they might think he is a nice enough guy. Since he has not had girls get up and walk out on him, I would say he could take a punt and not lie to begin with, but if he starts to encounter change of heart from the women, then try change the subject to avoid it or lie. The right girl for him is the one he wants (and wants him just as much) not the one who will accept him...imo. Some women don't care about discussing the guy's past history but plenty still do as part of wanting to know all about the guy they have fallen for soon after dating, or part of their pre screening chit chat process. Saying 'the past is past' or 'that's my business' or 'had my fun', lots of people will know with those cliche lines they are embarrassed to discuss it, so either lots of sex partners or hardly any....but it still might do the trick. If he is only meeting a couple of women a year that he likes and they seem to click with him, then that is making it harder on himself to find a woman who is fine with this, and each year that goes by the bigger the 'eeeew' factor for women. He needs to try chat up more to increase his prospects of success. Also as others pointed out if he is crap at sex (or maybe just thinks he is) then that is just as big a problem in terms of sustaining a relationship, which he needs to come to terms with. Not all women like it rough/vigorous but most do imo as part of a varied sex life....but I'd get a gf first then focus on that. A sexy playful gf certainly helps inspires a guy to get vigorous.
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