NGC1300 Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I'm almost 30 and have only been in 1 serious relationship which ended nearly 10 years ago. Since then, I can count the times I've been laid on 1 hand. Indeed, I've gone years and years without sex. I'm in the .01% of men who doesn't make any effort to obtain casual sex. It's not worth my time and I don't go out. If and when I do start dating again, should I lie and say I've been in more relationships than I really have been?
Teraskas Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I'm almost 30 and have only been in 1 serious relationship which ended nearly 10 years ago. Since then, I can count the times I've been laid on 1 hand. Indeed, I've gone years and years without sex. I'm in the .01% of men who doesn't make any effort to obtain casual sex. It's not worth my time and I don't go out. If and when I do start dating again, should I lie and say I've been in more relationships than I really have been? Hah, good to know I'm part of that mythical .01% club. ^^ In all honesty, I don't know what to say, and would like to read what advice other posters can provide on this as I'm in a similar situation. Except that I'm 22, my last relationship ended 2 years ago, and have gone an identical time without having been intimate with someone. I've found that despite my honest character, I feel that I've been shunned and looked at in an eyebrow raising manner by society, and more importantly the women I've dated thus far. I've consciously not brought it up anymore recently, but what should I do when a woman I date DOES ask that inevitable question ? I feel that lying about it would just go against my character. :/
TAV Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Uhm, why would you want to start any new relationship with a lie? I'm not sure what you think but I think a lot of women do not want a manwhore like you men don't want the female version. I think what is way more important is how you hit it off in bed with a girl. If you are confident enough of your 'skills' the number of bedpartners you had should be of no importance. 1
Author NGC1300 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Uhm, why would you want to start any new relationship with a lie? I'm not sure what you think but I think a lot of women do not want a manwhore like you men don't want the female version. I think what is way more important is how you hit it off in bed with a girl. If you are confident enough of your 'skills' the number of bedpartners you had should be of no importance. I'm no good in bed either. Why is it men don't deserve love and affection unless they can f**k the woman hard enough?
veggirl Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 you don't need to lie but you can be vague. "I've had one serious relationship and casually dated after that" then change the subject. Sucking in bed is a bigger obstacle imo. Why do you say you suck? 3
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 you don't need to lie but you can be vague. "I've had one serious relationship and casually dated after that" then change the subject. Sucking in bed is a bigger obstacle imo. Why do you say you suck? Would you mind re-phrasing this? The imagery isn't pretty.... 5
Author NGC1300 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Sucking in bed is a bigger obstacle imo. Why do you say you suck? Nobody will ever understand me sexually. I'd rather be given a HJ than have intercourse because the climax is more intense (for me). Then with intercourse I prefer to go slow, but I guess women want to be raped and slapped or else you don't deserve her affection.
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 God....what....? How the..... I mean...... Hell.... DAFUQ - ?! 6
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 He doesn't want to start with a lie. He's in a serious bind. If he tells her the truth, she will feel uneasy and make an excuse to break it off. Good move. Then all his problems would be over.... OP...How's the cancer....?
Author NGC1300 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 You have please her. Say you got into a relationship. Would you try hard to please her sexually? Yes of course I know I can't be selfish.
veggirl Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Nobody will ever understand me sexually. I'd rather be given a HJ than have intercourse because the climax is more intense (for me). Then with intercourse I prefer to go slow, but I guess women want to be raped and slapped or else you don't deserve her affection. Ummm. no. Lots of women like slow, intimate, romantic sex. You do, however, need to be willing to spice it up sometimes. That doesn't mean slapping or...raping. It could be a quickie, it could be shower sex, it could be a different position. 1
Author NGC1300 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 If he didn't have that relationship he'd have a helluva time explaining himself. You're absolutely right, but why is society like this? Say someone just focuses on education and their career for 10 years after high school. Or lets just say they were always involved with other passions and didn't feel the need to get with a woman during that time in their life. What has this person done to deserve being immediately marginalized for not being in a relationship? F this world.
TAV Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Nobody will ever understand me sexually. I'd rather be given a HJ than have intercourse because the climax is more intense (for me). Then with intercourse I prefer to go slow, but I guess women want to be raped and slapped or else you don't deserve her affection. Do you prefer a HJ now or did you always prefer that, also with your former gf? Is it not just the fact that you have gotten used to jacking yourself off and getting reacquainted with a vagina takes some getting used to? I like all sorts of sex, most of all I like the kind of sex that my partner is really into too so that I can see him enjoy himself as much as I do. Not sure where you get the idea it has to be slaps and rape but don't let your life be ruin by 1 or 2 bad experiences. Go into a new relationship with an open mind and a little confidence. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Not "lie", but just don't say anything about your past. Past is past, no one needs to know. 1
OpheliaSong Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Do what you want, it is your life. However, that information about you not dating will only be a big deal to a woman if you make it one. You seem very bitter about life, that might be the thing you want to rectify because women like bitter men who suck in bed about as much as men like like bitter women who suck in bed. Also, how do you know you prefer a head job if you have had limited sex? If you do, that is fine, but don't think that a woman is only going to be satisfied giving you bjs unless she is a doormat.
Hornylildevil Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Wow, dude. With all due respect, you're really confused. First, a GOOD woman will like the fact that you were in only 1 LTR. Don't lie. It sounds trite but you don't want to start a relationship with a lie. And being bad in bed?! Dude! You have a penis, how bad can you be?! If you get off on HJ more than intercourse, to each his own. But I'll give you a tip; focus on making your partner come AT LEAST 3 times before you do. I have between 15-18 partners, 4 of those relationships. NONE of those women said I was lame in bed following that one rule-o'-thumb. You're missing out on the intercourse but again, to each his own. Focus on her pleasure and she WILL focus on yours in return, unless she's a totally selfish B-word. And rape and slapping? Yeah, SOME women can only get off on that but a very small minority, I suspect. I belong to the camp of men that prefers making love, taking one's time, being passionate and caring. HOWEVER, there are times when I will be a domineering prick because it lead there, because the intensity got us to that point. And by prick, I DON'T mean hitting or raping! Consider yourself lucky, dude; you're young and you have a lot to learn and what a fun, exhilarating subject of study! Find the right woman (as much of a needle in a haystack as that is) and this will all become as natural as...sex! Good luck, bubba, and I didn't mean to berate or insult you. 1
Under The Radar Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 OP, the right woman isn't going to care about your limited relationship history. I know that sounds cliché, but it's absolutely true. You don't need to disclose that information aggressively upon first meeting someone. Let the facts come out over time organically as you get to know one another. I would advise you to be honest if and when the topic comes up.
KathyM Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 You could just say you've had one serious relationship and also dated others where it didn't lead anywhere. Nothing wrong with that. And don't worry so much about your performance in bed. Most men are not a great lover, so your competition is not going to be very stiff in that regard. You may want to read up on how to please a woman in bed, or new sexual techniques. Maybe even buy books on the Kama Sutra. 4
MissBee Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I'm almost 30 and have only been in 1 serious relationship which ended nearly 10 years ago. Since then, I can count the times I've been laid on 1 hand. Indeed, I've gone years and years without sex. I'm in the .01% of men who doesn't make any effort to obtain casual sex. It's not worth my time and I don't go out. If and when I do start dating again, should I lie and say I've been in more relationships than I really have been? Uhh no. If you have to lie to be with someone it's not worth it, as you're gonna have to keep up those lies or when they do find out the truth it will not be good. Speaking for myself, I am more impressed by a man who isn't chasing casual sex than one who cannot number the amount of casual sex he's had. I would respect a man a lot more for telling me what you've just expressed and I'm not the only woman who feels this way, so be true to yourself. 3
AndrewJDC Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Wow, dude. With all due respect, you're really confused. First, a GOOD woman will like the fact that you were in only 1 LTR. Don't lie. It sounds trite but you don't want to start a relationship with a lie. And being bad in bed?! Dude! You have a penis, how bad can you be?! If you get off on HJ more than intercourse, to each his own. But I'll give you a tip; focus on making your partner come AT LEAST 3 times before you do. I have between 15-18 partners, 4 of those relationships. NONE of those women said I was lame in bed following that one rule-o'-thumb. You're missing out on the intercourse but again, to each his own. Focus on her pleasure and she WILL focus on yours in return, unless she's a totally selfish B-word. And rape and slapping? Yeah, SOME women can only get off on that but a very small minority, I suspect. I belong to the camp of men that prefers making love, taking one's time, being passionate and caring. HOWEVER, there are times when I will be a domineering prick because it lead there, because the intensity got us to that point. And by prick, I DON'T mean hitting or raping! Consider yourself lucky, dude; you're young and you have a lot to learn and what a fun, exhilarating subject of study! Find the right woman (as much of a needle in a haystack as that is) and this will all become as natural as...sex! Good luck, bubba, and I didn't mean to berate or insult you. Don't bother making the women cum, it has no biological purpose and doesn't make yours any more fun, unless you like the feeling of humping a water melon. Also, I follow this attitude and have had 5-67 partners and had no complaints. The issue is in your head, I'd doubt it would concern any potential dates although I would keep the rapey stuff to yourself...
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Don't bother making the women cum, it has no biological purpose and doesn't make yours any more fun, Not what I've heard.... Most men LIKE to make their women orgasm... So the fact that coming is part of a woman's enjoyment, is not your concern and you have no inclination to help a woman enjoy sex? Nice. 2
AnyaNova Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I'm no good in bed either. Why is it men don't deserve love and affection unless they can f**k the woman hard enough? A couple thoughts here. 1) Don't lie. It sounds like you want a real relationship. Real relationships are never based on lies. If a woman is going to judge you for your relational experience only, and not yourself, do you really want her? 2) As to how good you are in bed. There is only one way to get better and when you find the right woman and it is the right time for you both, there will be plenty of fun practicing to do. And come on, it's sex. Even when its bad, its still pretty good. 1
AnyaNova Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Not what I've heard.... Most men LIKE to make their women orgasm... So the fact that coming is part of a woman's enjoyment, is not your concern and you have no inclination to help a woman enjoy sex? Nice. I thought about responding to that particular bit of *******ry. Then decided not to. Though your question says it all. :-) 2
Hornylildevil Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Don't bother making the women cum, it has no biological purpose and doesn't make yours any more fun, unless you like the feeling of humping a water melon. Also, I follow this attitude and have had 5-67 partners and had no complaints. The issue is in your head, I'd doubt it would concern any potential dates although I would keep the rapey stuff to yourself... WOW! I couldn't imagine NOT wanting to make my partner cum, really. You see, my goal is to make my partner want to be with me again. These partners of yours, were they one-night stands? 3
Allumere Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Hell no you don't lie...ever. If ya feel you need to lie, you aren't with the right person period.
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