6 dates in, what now?

[python23]

So I've been dating a girl now for around 4 weeks, we met on a dating site. All has been going well and we get on really well. Last night was date 6, I've been on a couple of double dates with her best friend and her boyfriend which were really good nights. She lives 40 miles away but she has travelled over to my town twice and I've done the same with her. We've met a couple of times half way.

 

 

She recently turned 21 and she spent the night with me. I took her out for a meal and a few drinks. She stayed over in the same bed. but we didn't have sex. Sex hasn't even been mentioned, a kiss is as far as it's gone so she's certainly not easy which I respect.

 

But I'm at the point now where I don't really know what to do. I really like this girl but I'm not sure how she feels about the future. She's told me in the past that a couple of guys have rushed things and ended up treating her really badly so she wants to take it slow. She says I'm different to guys she's met in the past but wants to take it slow.

 

I totally respect her for this but it's getting a little frustrating. Not the sex. I'm not talking about that. I'm just a little confused as to where this is going, how do I approach the topic of making it official? Is this even the next step? Or should I just continue to arrange dates and let her bring up the topic of a relationship? I've been told off a few friends that she will be waiting for me to make the move and ask her out. But I don't want to get rejected and scare her off. We've not even slept together yet so the idea of a relationship to her might be a long time off. Any help?

[PogoStick]

It's a fair bet that she is interested after 6 dates and spending the night. If you are really into this girl then sex should be a goal, and there is nothing wrong with that. Sex says much about a relationship and usually brings people closer together. Keep applying gentle pressure, make out, get her excited. Keep going until she says slow down. Repeat 15 minutes later, an hour later, a day later, until she's ready.

 

It's the man's job to move the relationship forward, especially with a passive girl. Don't do anything over the top. Keep spending time together. Tell her simple things, you like her smile, that you enjoy conversations with her. Listen for her to offer similar compliments.

 

She's attracted to guys who escalate, she wants to, but she's been burned. However if you're too passive, you won't be her type.

[FitChick]

Ramp up the affection in a 'normal' way -- hold her hand when you walk, hug her while you are waiting to cross the street, brush her hair out of her face. Always try to maintain some physical contact, even if it's just grabbing her arm when speaking intensely about something. You want her to get used to your touch. Then stop and see what she does. If she grabs you, you know you've got her and can gradually make things more sexual.

[kaylan]

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jk

It's a fair bet that she is interested after 6 dates and spending the night. If you are really into this girl then sex should be a goal, and there is nothing wrong with that. Sex says much about a relationship and usually brings people closer together. Keep applying gentle pressure, make out, get her excited. Keep going until she says slow down. Repeat 15 minutes later, an hour later, a day later, until she's ready.

 

It's the man's job to move the relationship forward, especially with a passive girl. Don't do anything over the top. Keep spending time together. Tell her simple things, you like her smile, that you enjoy conversations with her. Listen for her to offer similar compliments.

 

She's attracted to guys who escalate, she wants to, but she's been burned. However if you're too passive, you won't be her type.

This. Escalate OP, but slowly. Kiss her more, and see where your hands are allowed. And with each hang out, see how much further you can go.