hurt1086 Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I met this girl about a month ago and took her out on a few dates to dinner and we seemed to hit it off great. We always enjoyed each others company, cute texting back and forth and I we even cuddled and watched a movie together. Well early last week after I dropped her off at home we kissed and I left for the night and from there things changed. She just kind of seemed distant a little at first. Then yesterday morning we were texting and I told her I'd rather be cuddling with her than heading to the gym and she replied saying she didn't really like cuddling much to which I replied "lol well now I know." She apologized and said she shouldve been more up front about it. Well later throughout the day she still seemed distant and that night she said she was gonna relax and do homework when I had asked what she had planned and I told her I wanted to come see her but had a feeling that maybe we were moving fast to which she replied saying she had felt the same for the past few days... So why not say something? At first she would even say she missed seeing me a few times and now she is distant. I decided to just stop all the cute text which is hard cause I'm a very affectionate person and straight forward about my feelings. I just don't know what to do. If I should just keep being me or just continue to stay back and short in text or if I should just stop texting and let her make a move. At this point I'm under the impression there's either somebody else or she is just scared... Either way it is irritating just feeling left in the dark Update from week after till now: Ok well I spoke to her about her seeming distant and she said she backed off due to my reaction when she kissed me which I didn't see anything wrong there. We kissed twice and then pretty much said goodnight and I left and we were even texting after I left too and everything seemed fine... But now I just feel like it varies by day and I feel as if I'm putting more effort forward sometimes which bothers me a lot... And it seems like at times she will text and sometimes she won't (which maybe I could be over thinking it there), like I texted her this morning pretty much saying good morning etc and we texted back and forth briefly then I didn't hear anything again until like 8 hours later after I decided to text to see how her day had been going. we texted then briefly then I sent a picture of me and she replied 45 min later saying it was cute and that was 4 hours ago. We met last night and I ran with her while she looked for some work clothes real quick then we grabbed some food and she seemed fine then too. Like I said maybe I'm over thinking the text thing and I want to text since I haven't heard from her but at the same time I don't know... I talked to a good friend about everything and she told me that I should just stop being the first one to text and let her come to me but I feel that if I do that I take the risk of her maybe saying whatever and thinking I don't care anymore, or that I'm trying to play games which I definitely hate playing period! Although the other day when I didn't text anything all day, she did text that evening saying she hoped I had a good day and that she was thinking about me. I just don't know what to do.... If I should just keep showing interest in her or if I should just go completely silent... I mean of course communicating with her about it would be best but Im afraid of the reaction I might get if I tell her I feel like I'm putting more effort into this...
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 This dating malarky is hard work ! lol x I think u need to let her do some running to u now... I wouldnt have any heavy conversations at this stage just back off a bit and let her come to u... make yourself a little less unavailable.. some girls do like to chase too... trust me Im one of them ! :-) x
Author hurt1086 Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Thats exactly how I feel! Kind of more of a downer then being upset when I feel like Im the only one putting forth anything. But I do agree on backing off, just dont want it to give off the notion that Im playing games or anything or that Im not interested especially since its gonna be a big difference from how I have been with her. Thanks for the reply!!
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