BikerAccnt Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Hokey, what you said makes perfect sense for a long term couple. Having phones out and using them, if you've been with someone a long time, is totally different than having them out when dating someone new. Hell, when I was married, the phone was helpful in making me forget who I was out with! 1
Ruby Slippers Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I agree with you but that is always the justification of so many women who want to use their phones on dates Those women are full of crap and also have terrible social skills. 1
Allumere Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Unless they have small children left behind with a sitter, barely teenagers left at home, or a parent/sibling that has a major illness...LEAVE THE PHONE IN THE CAR. Seriously, if they can't be disconnected for the time it takes to eat a meal they sure as hell don't have enough time to really get to know me. Sorry, no one is that important that they can't be disconnected at some point.
soccerrprp Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Unless they have small children left behind with a sitter, barely teenagers left at home, or a parent/sibling that has a major illness...LEAVE THE PHONE IN THE CAR. Seriously, if they can't be disconnected for the time it takes to eat a meal they sure as hell don't have enough time to really get to know me. Sorry, no one is that important that they can't be disconnected at some point. Putting the phones face down on the table never made any sense to me. If off, then why on the table? If not, then how annoying listening to them buzz, rattle and vibrate right in front of everyone. When I date and on dates with my gf, the phones are on vibrate in my pocket. I have young children, so look to see who has made an attempt to contact and if not babysitter than it goes right back into my pocket. I've never had any woman be so disrespectful and I would never do so in turn. My gf and I were out on Valentines night and it was amazing how many people where on their phones texting, on social media while their date was sitting next to them or across from them. A little sad... 1
WP4046 Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Putting the phones face down on the table never made any sense to me. If off, then why on the table? If not, then how annoying listening to them buzz, rattle and vibrate right in front of everyone. When I date and on dates with my gf, the phones are on vibrate in my pocket. I have young children, so look to see who has made an attempt to contact and if not babysitter than it goes right back into my pocket. I've never had any woman be so disrespectful and I would never do so in turn. My gf and I were out on Valentines night and it was amazing how many people where on their phones texting, on social media while their date was sitting next to them or across from them. A little sad... Maybe they were announcing on facebook where they were eating valentine's dinner
soccerrprp Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Maybe they were announcing on facebook where they were eating valentine's dinner I don't doubt that. But not all for sure. It was odd to see couples not talking for minutes at a time while they were texting or telling their "friends" every detail of every minute of their lives. It looked crazy the number of people who had their phones out. My gf and I just watched in amazement...
Els Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 You have every right to be annoyed by his behaviour, and to express it to him. If it had been an urgent, important call then that would have been one thing, but idle texting can very well wait for later. Also seconding what Hokey says about long-term couples. If you've lived together for years, and you are just popping out together for a bite to eat, surely you can't be expected to fill every minute of the wait with conversation or staring into each others' eyes. That would be exhausting to have to do all that time, so phones in that situation are fine IMO. But obviously that isn't relevant to the OP's situation, which is the early dating phase.
Tayken Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Ridiculous and shameful ....when people sit there are whip out their phones, disrespectful to your guest. Now there are exceptions to this rule...when a woman/man has to check on the child/ren
HokeyReligions Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Cell phones weren't around when I was dating but had they been, mine would have been off and in my purse and I would expect my dates' to be hidden and off as well. If I, or he, needed to check messages we would excuse ourself and check privately. I repeat my initial post on this thread. And let me also add after reading this thread: I am more happy than ever that I will never have to date again!
TheNewMe2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 As one who keeps his phone on the table. I'll take the consideration of those that say there is no reason to do it. That actually makes sense. Like I said, mostly I do it because I hate it in my pocket. But you are right, the vibration and everything else can take away from the date. I'll keep that in mind.
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