Author 4everalones Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 cant imagine her going through her day seeing the stuff that reminds her of us and not wanting to break down - how can someone do that - and even if they cant they still dont make contact Exactly! It's been 2 months and not even once he broke NC. how can someone text you and call you constantly throughout the day for so long, and suddenly be able to go cold turkey? how can someone care about you so much and then just move on with their lives within days? I am spending most of my days crying and yearning for him, and he's out living the life, and not thinking about me at all. How can all this happen? I think I'm going crazy. I really think there is something wrong with me!
somecamel Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Exactly! It's been 2 months and not even once he broke NC. how can someone text you and call you constantly throughout the day for so long, and suddenly be able to go cold turkey? how can someone care about you so much and then just move on with their lives within days? I am spending most of my days crying and yearning for him, and he's out living the life, and not thinking about me at all. How can all this happen? I think I'm going crazy. I really think there is something wrong with me! Maybe he's already been to this site and is practising NC:)
jameslonn Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 Exactly! It's been 2 months and not even once he broke NC. how can someone text you and call you constantly throughout the day for so long, and suddenly be able to go cold turkey? how can someone care about you so much and then just move on with their lives within days? I am spending most of my days crying and yearning for him, and he's out living the life, and not thinking about me at all. How can all this happen? I think I'm going crazy. I really think there is something wrong with me! all i can say is EXACTLY again - jst impossible to imagine it not afecting the other person just as much
Author 4everalones Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 Maybe he's already been to this site and is practising NC:) He sure is doing NC (Whether he read about it or it's something he naturally does). It's sure so much easier for him than it it for me. I broke NC so many times within 2 months, and not even once did he break it. Wow! Even when I met him, he was distant, cold; it's like I was talking to another person. He moved on so fast, I want to move on fast as well. I don't want to suffer for months and months while he's out there finding a new love
somecamel Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 He sure is doing NC (Whether he read about it or it's something he naturally does). It's sure so much easier for him than it it for me. I broke NC so many times within 2 months, and not even once did he break it. Wow! Even when I met him, he was distant, cold; it's like I was talking to another person. He moved on so fast, I want to move on fast as well. I don't want to suffer for months and months while he's out there finding a new love I've been a lot stronger than my ex in this breakup and have been really good with NC, she wanted to be friends apparently but I wasn't going to play that game. She is always emailing me, we were meant to have a months break with no contact, she kept on breaking it, I know she's sad as well as I bet your ex is, we all deal with this is our own way.
Author 4everalones Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 I've been a lot stronger than my ex in this breakup and have been really good with NC, she wanted to be friends apparently but I wasn't going to play that game. She is always emailing me, we were meant to have a months break with no contact, she kept on breaking it, I know she's sad as well as I bet your ex is, we all deal with this is our own way. Well at least you know she cared and she's sad over the breakup. I don't have that luxury. Why do people chose to be sad and heartbroken instead of solving their problems anyway? Why do they run away at the slightest sight of problems? isn't life supposed to be filled with problems and challenges? I wish a quick recovery for everyone here. It's a hard, terrible journey that we have to go through. I don't think I'll ever be able to trust someone else with my heart.
echo123 Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 [;QUOTE=4everalones;5544257]I love this person to death; he was the sweetest guy I've ever known. Ironically, the same trait that made me fall in love him is the same trait that made him leave me. He's very sensitive, very sweet, very emotional, so when things are great, he's the most caring and romantic person in the world, but the moment things got tough, he couldn't handle it, it was too much stress for him, he just run away instead of facing our problems like a gentleman would do. My reason/ego is telling me that this person is no good for me; he hasn't figured out what he wants in life, he left me when things got tough instead of supporting me, and now he's acting all cold and distant. But my heart is still yearning for him. I miss him more every minute that passes. A lot of people told me that if I keep myself super busy, it will take my mind off him. That really didn't work for me at all. Even when I am the busiest at work, he is still in the back of my mind. I've never considered multitasking a curse until this breakup appened. When I wake up, go to sleep, workout, go out with friend, work hard in my job, he's always there in my thoughts. Now I just don't know what to do (except not let him know that I suffer greatly)! I don't know how to get rid of this, it's torturing me, I want to forget about him, I want to stop missing him, I want to be happy and bubbly again :-( It has been two months, and I feel worse every day. I have been in that position. You should allow urself to love him, miss him but stay no contact. Its ok to cry but not ok to tell him how sad u r. respect his decision. ur sadness is ur problem now. Take care of it. The longer u stay NC, the better u will feel.
Author 4everalones Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I am hopeful from all the positive feedback about NC. It's not working for me so far though. I hope it will get better with time. I have no control over my thoughts or body anymore. I feel like a teenage girl all over again, crying all the time, obsessing over a guy, not able to eat or sleep properly :-( This is by far the worst experience I've been through. And the sad thing is, the one person I used to run to for comfort when things get hard is the same person causing this immense pain Life is not fair!
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