verity123 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 My lover is old enough to know better. he likes to treat me mean and keep me keen. so I have backed off and then he comes back always. Sometimes he talks badly to me on the phone and then i tell him to >>>> off. next day he is looking for me when I don't answer the phone and says he was in a bad mood. Our relationship has been very passionate and it has all come to a head. Yesterday I had something of his and wanted to give him it back. He would not answer the phone so during the day I saw him driving past and followed him. He then says I am stalking him. I said WTF we have been in a relationship for years, how can I be stalking you? Anyway I said take your jacket now then and and FO!!! So he drives off without it.. I follow him a little while about a mile and then stop, he slows down, so I follow him again, and stop. He waits for me then speeds up. I mean isn't he a little old to play games.......:bunny: Why does he do this? he says I drive him nuts. Is he nuts?
MidwestUSA Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Why are you engaging in the games? Leave his jacket; if he wants it, he'll come get it. How old are you? Too old for games as well? 2
carhill Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Generally, a game requires at least two participants. However, solitaire is an example of a game one can play by oneself. Perhaps that's instructive.
whichwayisup Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 You feed it by reacting and playing along. Why did you continue to follow him? My advice is the same as always - It'll all stop when you let go and move on.
Tayken Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 He would not answer the phone so during the day I saw him driving past and followed him. He then says I am stalking him. I said WTF we have been in a relationship for years, how can I be stalking you? Anyway I said take your jacket now then and and FO!!! So he drives off without it.. I follow him a little while about a mile and then stop, he slows down, so I follow him again, and stop. BOLD 1: Funny that isn't it...but am sure you can relate to that based on what you told us? BOLD 2: Sure this has to be a wind up? This is the sort of thing you see in those lifetime TV suspense thriller movies...like teenagers chasing each other Most people would have just left that jacket on their front porch or mailed it, as opposed to chasing the person around town. That is indeed STALKERISH behaviour, and if the tables were turned...you would have called it just that
CaliGypsy Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 I'll be honest, I'd have probably thrown it in the trash or dropped it off at goodwill if he pulled that sh**. He IS way too old for that crap. But he does because he can. If his actions are making you unhappy only you can decide if the relationship is worth the stress.
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