Guys, do you commit to a relationship just to get into someone's pants?

[JellyBeen]

 

I'm just curious how far guys would go just to sleep with someone. As for the titie, I personally believe for most guys the answer would be NO. What do you think?

[Silver93]

 

I'm just curious how far guys would go just to sleep with someone. As for the titie, I personally believe for most guys the answer would be NO. What do you think?

 

I am a male and the answer for me would be no. I plan on saving myself for marriage so if I we're to get into a relationship then it is to try and find the girl who I will spend my life with.

[TaraMaiden]

I am a male and the answer for me would be no. I plan on saving myself for marriage so if I we're to get into a relationship then it is to try and find the girl who I will spend my life with.

 

How old are you?

Is this on religious grounds?

 

personally, i think it's a bad idea.

 

If you find you're sexually incompatible - well, it's a hell of a time to find out! On Honeymoon!

 

How would you know beforehand?

[Silver93]

How old are you?

Is this on religious grounds?

 

personally, i think it's a bad idea.

 

If you find you're sexually incompatible - well, it's a hell of a time to find out! On Honeymoon!

 

How would you know beforehand?

 

I am 20 years old and yes it is on Religious grounds. I am devout Catholic.

I don't think that sexual incompatibility will be a problem because I think I could talk to my future wife about these things before we get married.

[TaraMaiden]

I am 20 years old

FAAAAR too young to be making this decision. Honestly, you are.

 

and yes it is on Religious grounds. I am devout Catholic.

Don't let this stop you. millions of Catholics all over the world 'ignore' this factor.

I did.

Most of my fellow mums at the Diocesian Catholic school, also did.

Hell, an awful lot of Catholic Priests did too....

 

celibacy is a man-imposed doctrine, it's not god-sent.

Remember that.

 

I don't think that sexual incompatibility will be a problem because I think I could talk to my future wife about these things before we get married.

having worked within a RCatholic counselling organisation for 4 years, let me tell you what a huge mistake this will be. You are deluding yourself if you believe this.

Honest, hun, you really are.

Talking - isn't doing.

you can talk all about it until you're blue in the face, but when it 'comes right down to it' life is full of high expectations and crushing disappointments.

[Silver93]

FAAAAR too young to be making this decision. Honestly, you are.

 

 

Don't let this stop you. millions of Catholics all over the world 'ignore' this factor.

I did.

Most of my fellow mums at the Diocesian Catholic school, also did.

Hell, an awful lot of Catholic Priests did too....

 

celibacy is a man-imposed doctrine, it's not god-sent.

Remember that.

 

 

having worked within a RCatholic counselling organisation for 4 years, let me tell you what a huge mistake this will be. You are deluding yourself if you believe this.

Honest, hun, you really are.

Talking - isn't doing.

you can talk all about it until you're blue in the face, but when it 'comes right down to it' life is full of high expectations and crushing disappointments.

 

Thank you for your advice.

I know what you mean, a good friend of mine is a Priest and he says i you honestly love the girl then it is ok to sleep with her.

 

I just love the idea of saving myself for the woman that I love. Don't get me wrong, I find it incredibly difficult at times but I think it will be worth it.

 

Sure how can sex be bad if it is with the woman you love?

I do understand that sex drives is a big thing but I think talking about that will solve that.

[TaraMaiden]

To answer the OP, my very first BF did that to me - and left me very disillusioned and angry - also at myself for allowing myself to be taken in like that.

But that was 40 years ago.

 

(What?!!? No, never.....! Jeesh! How time flies!!)

 

I have never let it happen since; but then, the BF's I've had since weren't 'that type of guy'.

My people-picking radar was quite good in that respect.....

[somedude81]

 

I'm just curious how far guys would go just to sleep with someone. As for the titie, I personally believe for most guys the answer would be NO. What do you think?

Honestly, your question doesn't make much sense..

 

"I just want to have sex with this girl, so I will commit myself to her, meaning we will be exclusive, honest and open with to her."

 

I don't see how it's even possible to be in a committed relationship when you just want sex.

 

The only way that could happen if the guy was constantly lying about his feelings. But why would he go through so much trouble when he doesn't even like the girl? Just find a FWB.

[ltjg45]

 

I'm just curious how far guys would go just to sleep with someone. As for the titie, I personally believe for most guys the answer would be NO. What do you think?

 

Nah. Way too much effort.

 

If all I desired was sex, I would go to a bar or club and just look for a woman that only wants a quick lay. That would be quicker, less expensive, and less time consuming than trying to get into said relationship.

 

If I do get into a relationship with a woman, it is because I see more about her than just having sex.

 

Of course, that's just me.

[JellyBeen]

Honestly, I think it doesn't make much sense either but I actually know someone who's doing that.

Honestly, your question doesn't make much sense..

 

"I just want to have sex with this girl, so I will commit myself to her, meaning we will be exclusive, honest and open with to her."

 

I don't see how it's even possible to be in a committed relationship when you just want sex.

 

The only way that could happen if the guy was constantly lying about his feelings. But why would he go through so much trouble when he doesn't even like the girl? Just find a FWB.

[carhill]

Guys, do you commit to a relationship just to get into someone's pants?

 

Historically, I've committed to an exclusive and monogamous relationship before 'getting into someone's pants'. No exceptions. This appears to be generally outlier behavior amongst males of my generation, so apparently has been somewhat confusing to women over the decades, mainly in confusing not 'going for it' with 'lack of interest' in them sexually.

[Keenly]

I want to feel loved and desired.

 

Sex is kind of something that comes along with being moved and desired, but its like third or fourth on my priority list.

 

I'm so used to not having sex that I FEEL Like I could do just cuddling for months. However, I know that once I was put in that situation, all the excitement and chemicals will start flowing,and iI will be vernier than a bear after hibernation.

[somedude81]

Honestly, I think it doesn't make much sense either but I actually know someone who's doing that.

Do you know if the guy has any feelings at all for the girl?

 

There has to be a reason why he's faking a relationship with her.

[JellyBeen]

Do you know if the guy has any feelings at all for the girl?

 

There has to be a reason why he's faking a relationship with her.

 

Dude's bragging how he's gonna get into her pant for a while, and somewhat he started a relationship before he slept with her. I've no idea what's going on

[JellyBeen]

One question ltjg45(not related to this thread), what makes you mark someone as "woman that only wants a quick lay" and "relationship material"?

Others feel free to answer this too!

Nah. Way too much effort.

 

If all I desired was sex, I would go to a bar or club and just look for a woman that only wants a quick lay. That would be quicker, less expensive, and less time consuming than trying to get into said relationship.

 

If I do get into a relationship with a woman, it is because I see more about her than just having sex.

 

Of course, that's just me.

[ltjg45]

One question ltjg45(not related to this thread), what makes you mark someone as "woman that only wants a quick lay" and "relationship material"?

Others feel free to answer this too!

 

If I were to go to a bar or a club and meet a woman that wants to get sexual that same night, I get the feeling that she is merely looking for a one-night stand as her priority. Of course, that happens a lot more at bars and clubs than anywhere else so if that is all I am looking for at the time, I have my best shots going there.

 

"Relationship material" women, in my eyes, is the ones that actually wants to get to know who and what I am first before they sleep with me. Of course, there is exceptions where a woman is willing to get sexual first and then understand me later (which is why I tend to get confused and then back off) but they typically work in that fashion.

 

It is also the kind that I can relate to better as I can't see me sleeping with a woman that I don't even have the smallest of feelings for hence why casual sex just won't work for me in the long run. I can see me doing it once every few months but I can't do it in the way a "player" can.

 

I rather go to sleep instead of draining my energy doing something I will later regret instead.

[Tayken]

Why would anyone do that when there are lots of pants to get into ?

[Els]

I've seen a few try it (very few, mind you), but it was usually blatantly obvious. They were usually gone after a few sexless dates, usually after the typical complaining about frigid bitches. Was rather amusing to watch. No one has tried it with me, certainly.

 

Frankly, you don't have to worry. If you go into things with a level head and some common sense, you will usually be able to tell when a guy is doing that.

[Tayken]

Unless there is really something special about your "pants".....join the queue

[ponchsox]

I put up with a lot of BS in my last relationship just to sleep with her. We ended it, as expected, but we had amazing physical chemistry.

[Tayken]

I put up with a lot of BS in my last relationship just to sleep with her. We ended it, as expected, but we had amazing physical chemistry.

 

 

But as you found out, there is more to life / happiness than just bedroom acrobatics. It doesn't pay the bills and sure does not make everything honky dory....

 

Contrary to popular belief, all you need is NOT love

[Hornylildevil]

I want a committed LTR! I'll admit it, I love being in a LTR and furthermore, I'm bloody lonely!

[Tayken]

I want a committed LTR! I'll admit it, I love being in a LTR and furthermore, I'm bloody lonely!

 

 

You need to get out more Oh...and you have us here to keep you warm and honest

[Hornylildevil]

You need to get out more Oh...and you have us here to keep you warm and honest

 

You said a mouthful! I really do. That's what I've been telling my lady friend. She's been used by two jag-offs in the last several months. I hate bars, though. Being a bouncer for three years will do that to ya! And thanks, I just got a nice, warm fuzzy feeling inside!

[ponchsox]

But as you found out, there is more to life / happiness than just bedroom acrobatics. It doesn't pay the bills and sure does not make everything honky dory....

 

Contrary to popular belief, all you need is NOT love

 

No it doesn't. But I've dated women who I thought would make great wives but I just didn't have the physical chemistry with. Until I get both, I'm single.