Coco4276 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) Hi, everyone! Just wanted opinions on this one... Two weeks ago I started dating an awesome (what I thought) man. Flowers, door opening stuff, the whole none yards. Thought men like him didn't exist. You guys get it, right? Well, he has a history of women cheating on him. His last girlfriend would drink a lot and get belligerent. He doesn't drink. Fast forward to last night. We were at dinner having a great time. I had a drink and a half. We leave. I made a joke about knowing what it's like to be the person who has to drive around buzzed or drunk people. A couple minutes later, a flip switched and he was pissed off. I asked what his issue was. He started yelling at me about it being all his fault. The way he was saying it, it was like I was accusing him of something being his fault. I had NO idea what he was talking about. I could only think that he was ascribing his ex-girlfriend's actions to me. At that point, I was starting to get a little scared. I told him to let me out of the car. He swerves, pulls right over, and I get out. He peels off. Mind you, it's 11:00 at night, in a big city that I don't live in, it's winter and I'm a woman. He came back after like five minutes, and I let him drive me to a place to meet my BFF who also lives in that city. Thank god she does. I have no plans to speak with him again. I don't think that's something that should be forgiven. Thoughts on this?? Edited February 22, 2014 by Coco4276
BDL Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Run away! A good, balanced man is centered and doesn't get angry. 1
trippi1432 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Opinion? RUN!! Do not walk to the nearest exit!! Count yourself lucky to get a HUGE red flag like so soon into the relationship....most don't become that apparent until you are six month's in and invested emotionally in the relationship. It's more disappointment at this stage than true heartbreak.
newmoon Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 ummm.... NOT GOOD!! this is a huge goodbye for this guy. and i, for one, would not have even got back into the car with him after he let me out. you're lucky he didn't get further upset and/or violent with you. lesson: smart women have a cell phone and cash on them at all times because you can't depend on your date taking care of you! 2
Author Coco4276 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 Thanks for the responses. Yeah, I think the same thing as you all. newmoon, I did have my cell phone and cash of my own on me, always do. That's why I called my best friend. But you are right, definite lesson learned. Wolf in sheep's clothing, for sure.
FnlyFrei Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Good lord....no. Do not give him another chance ! 2
HappyLove Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 He's CRAZY!!!!!!! Thank God you're ok! Please do not ever even talk or respond to this psycho again. Great point Newmoon, you should have NEVER gotten back in the car with him. Thanks for sharing. This was a great lesson for all of us! 1
BradJacobs Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Wolf in sheep's clothing, for sure. That is an insult to wolves everywhere. This dude is mental. Be thankful you found this out early. 1
lolablue17 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 But as long as you keep using your current filters and your way of judging men, you will continue getting those kind of men. "Flowers, door opening stuff, the whole none yards. Thought men like him didn't exist". try to look the INSIDE, not the OUTSIDE or the way he found to impress you.
Noproblem Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 He has issues I'm glad you figured them out before it was too late.
Radu Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 He has issues, massive baggage, and yes ... HUGE red flag. But you also have a problem. You asked him to let you get out of the car, and when he did that, you got pissed at him for doing it. Why do you blame him for your situation then, being 11:00 PM at night in a city you don't know ? 1
Author Coco4276 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 He has issues, massive baggage, and yes ... HUGE red flag. But you also have a problem. You asked him to let you get out of the car, and when he did that, you got pissed at him for doing it. Why do you blame him for your situation then, being 11:00 PM at night in a city you don't know ? You make a very valid point. You're right, I did ask to get out. I did not ask to be left there. I wanted a second to just stop, get out, get some air and hopefully that would give him a chance to cool down whatever the hell was in his head. Definite lesson learned. I don't date much and this just solidified I will not be doing it again any time soon.
Tayken Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 @OP.....I don't know what you are expecting to hear from people here, but am going to tell you this based on what you've told us..... The incident that happened, is a SHARED BLAME....you heard that right! You obviously knew from your convos with this guy that alcohol is a very sensitive issue, yet after your couple of drinks, you went there... I made a joke about knowing what it's like to be the person who has to drive around buzzed or drunk people. A couple minutes later, a flip switched and he was pissed off. You don't think there is anything wrong with your actions?
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