Author mangetout Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I have gone no contact for 5 days. I am with you. Everytime i get the urge to Call i wait à few minutes to think about the outcome. I think what will and say? Will she answer the phone? If he/she doesnt than what? Do i Call back and look desperate? And finally what If they dont want you back? These are the questions i ask myself and i really world for me. I almost called my ex back today after she text me. I DIDNT AND I FEEL OK. you have to be strong and understand he broke up with you. And there is Nothing you can do to change it at this point. U told him How u felt and that is what matters. If they want to talk to you or get back together they will Call or text you. Hope this was some help. Yes I totally agree. I have accepted the fact that I cannot make him want me back. I am sooooo tired of looking desparate. I usually crumble between day 6 to day 8 but I wont succumb to my urges this time. I think its an ego thing with me. The fact that he doesn't want me is triggering my low self esteem. Rejection is a difficult emotion to deal with. On the whole he was truly one of the worst boyfriends I have ever had in my life. I am almost embarrassed that I have been clinging onto to him. He doesn't bloody deserve me.
Author mangetout Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I think it's 100 but you should top that easily soon! I read your NC guide which made me emotional. Makes so much sense. I need to keep reading it when I feel low.
Author mangetout Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I have gone no contact for 5 days. I am with you. Everytime i get the urge to Call i wait à few minutes to think about the outcome. I think what will and say? Will she answer the phone? If he/she doesnt than what? Do i Call back and look desperate? And finally what If they dont want you back? These are the questions i ask myself and i really world for me. I almost called my ex back today after she text me. I DIDNT AND I FEEL OK. you have to be strong and understand he broke up with you. And there is Nothing you can do to change it at this point. U told him How u felt and that is what matters. If they want to talk to you or get back together they will Call or text you. Hope this was some help. Why did your ex text you today? Was it just to chat about nothing?
Author mangetout Posted February 27, 2014 Author Posted February 27, 2014 I am tired of feeling hurt I am tired of how he makes me feel I am tired of my loss of self control I am tired of loving him I am tired of being tired Day two
Author mangetout Posted February 28, 2014 Author Posted February 28, 2014 To my ex: I think of you constantly. But there are moments when I dont. I feel absolutely fine when this happens...content, upbeat, positive.. But then do you forget me too? That upsets me greatly. Day three
Author mangetout Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 I just received an email from my ex saying this: Hi...How are you? I am in your area Monday evening and I would like to get my tent that is still in your loft First of all I had asked him if he had taken all of his things when he moved out. He said he had.But he may have forgotten about his tent.Who knows. But why should I have to see him just to reel back in pain again?? I have ignored his email. I hope I am doing the right thing
Author mangetout Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Oh my God. I feel sick. Just reading his email has upset me sooo much. This is the man who wanted to marry me and now he contacts me because he only wants his tent back. He doesn't want me back
TaraMaiden Posted March 1, 2014 Posted March 1, 2014 Take the tent out of the loft. Put it by the front door, Monday afternoon/evening. Stay indoors, lights off, and have a good warm bath. Wear earplugs. If on tuesday morning, the tent is still there, put it in the bin. reply to his email. "I no longer have the tent. I disposed of it when you said you had taken all you wanted." And leave it at that.
Author mangetout Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 lol.No I cant do that Taramaiden. I am not as tough as that. But ideally I would like to personally shove his tent up his ass. He sent me another email yesterday and we did battle as you can imagine. Anyway after numerous exchanges of angry emails , we have arranged for him to collect his tent tomorrow after work. I have also told him that he needs to take everything this time as I dont wish to hear from him in the future
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 If you had done as I suggested, maybe the 'email battle' would never have been necessary..... You have to make yourself strong enough to deal with him as he deserves....
Author mangetout Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 You are absolutely right Tara. My head is so screwed on with all aspects of my life except men. Love sucks
Author mangetout Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Twenty years later and I still cry over men. Cupid is a horrible little boy
4everalones Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Right. Back to Day One It happens to the best of us. Hope you're feeling a little better.
Author mangetout Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 It happens to the best of us. Hope you're feeling a little better. Hi. I was just reading up on your posts in another thread. I liked your list of what not to do. NC is so so hard. You want to beg and plead for them to change their mind..... But I won't break it
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