257 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) Sorry it is kind of long, but I'd appreciate thoughts. We tried dating twice but we both made mistakes and rushed things a bit. Edited February 22, 2014 by 257 Deleted
Author 257 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 Due to both our circumstances, it wasn't going to work out, he is the one that realised this better at the time and ended things both times. He knows that the way he handled things the second time hurt me a bit and I know I could have dealt with things differently but we agreed we were okay with each other, we specifically said not friends but that we were good, as we have mutual friends. It's been a couple of months now and we've text a couple of times and bumped into each other a few times (we both studied at the same place but at different times, he works nearby at the moment and I am back there studying). Bit awkward at first but we've gotten more used to each other. Then, a week ago we had a conversation with mutual friends but they disappeared and at first he looked like he was about to walk away too but then moved closer to me and started a conversation, we caught up a bit and he told me that his circumstances had changed a bit, then a friend came back so the conversation opened up a bit and I left to get back to study but he came to where I was studying and offered help, I was a little confused by his intentions as he was standing so close he touched me when there was definitely no need to be that close, but I assumed that he was just being friendly and I'm fine being around him with friends but actually being friends is different, so I more or less turned down his help and he left. The next week I was still a little confused about how he had acted but thought that maybe he had been trying to test the water and see how I responded to him now that his circumstances had changed, so I text and asked if he felt like helping me out, he could have easily avoided it by saying he was busy as my test was the next day. When he first arrived he seemed fine but when we sat down in a room, just the two of us, he got really hot and flustered and couldn't stop his hands from shaking, I didn't say anything about it and talked to him like normal and he calmed down after a while. We only really talked about what I was studying but we were both smiling and getting along, making eye contact, joking and he was leaning across the table towards me but he got kind of shy again when he had to leave for work. The next day I sat the test and I text him later and told him I'd passed and thanks for the help. He text back fantastic, great work and I didn't text back straight away and he text again you didn't even need my help either, what did you get?. I was a bit brief in my reply because I wasn't sure if he was insinuating that I hadn't needed his help at all and wondering why I had asked for it so I just told him my mark and he did a one word text back. I saw him that night at quite a busy event, I was only there briefly with a friend and I saw him at the bar with his friends but he didn't come over and say hi and I never went to say hi to him because I'm just not sure what's going on. Judging from the way he behaves around me, when he is actually around me, I think he still likes me but then there are times when it seems as though he doesn't want to be around me at all. I don't want to assume anything because I could be getting it all wrong and make things very uncomfortable between us and awkward for our friends. But I also don't want to give him the wrong impression if he is just nervous about how I feel about him because he knows he has hurt me before. Could this be it? Or is it more likely that he could just want to be friends? Or not even, is he just being nice because he feels bad because he knows he hurt me? If so, why was he so nervous? Would he have been worried about giving me the wrong impression? Or, could he like me but still not want a relationship?
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