justbroken Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 i am heart broken and confused. my boyfriend of 6 years, turned into a very mean person when my son was born 2 years ago. We planned our son, but now my ex is saying he didnt want a baby, and he refuses to do much with him, no changing, I cant leave them alone he wnt watch him, just plays a game and lets my 2 year oldhave run of the house which is dangerous! He started going to bars every day after work, he goes clubbing a lot, he is just MEAN. I found he was talking to another female he accidently put his sim card in my old phone when his broke and he couldnt get the password, i didnt know this but I went into the phone to get numbers and i saw texts.. i asked who one of them was and she said, "who is this?" and I put "Um, whos this?" and she wrote his name in question marks.. I then got suspicious and said who is THIS and she put "Your bebe" and I ran to him asking him.. he then toldme he met her, its a texting thing and he wouldnt talk to her anymore. I texted her and told her who I was, that we had a child, and that she should find someone else. I am NOT over it. In fact I am having a hard time getting over it. He refuses to answer anything, he goes out and refuses to tell me where.. he says he doesnt need to tell me anything. He is nasty he has some attitude. I know he checked out of the relationship. This hurts so much but I am not going to take him treating me like I am nothing. How do I just kick him out of my apartment. How do I break up with him when it is so hard... it hurts so much because I do love this man but it is obviously not returned. I have never done this before. This man has never been sorry for anything he has done. He always blames everyone else for his actions. He says he is number 1 to everything. He tells me he cannot love me fully because I am not 120lbs and weight means everything to him. He tells my my c-section scar turns him off. He wants to watch porn during sex to get him turned on. ALL of that hurrs and a man who loves a woman would not do that. How do I do this ans make it easier on me?
somecamel Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 i am heart broken and confused. my boyfriend of 6 years, turned into a very mean person when my son was born 2 years ago. We planned our son, but now my ex is saying he didnt want a baby, and he refuses to do much with him, no changing, I cant leave them alone he wnt watch him, just plays a game and lets my 2 year oldhave run of the house which is dangerous! He started going to bars every day after work, he goes clubbing a lot, he is just MEAN. I found he was talking to another female he accidently put his sim card in my old phone when his broke and he couldnt get the password, i didnt know this but I went into the phone to get numbers and i saw texts.. i asked who one of them was and she said, "who is this?" and I put "Um, whos this?" and she wrote his name in question marks.. I then got suspicious and said who is THIS and she put "Your bebe" and I ran to him asking him.. he then toldme he met her, its a texting thing and he wouldnt talk to her anymore. I texted her and told her who I was, that we had a child, and that she should find someone else. I am NOT over it. In fact I am having a hard time getting over it. He refuses to answer anything, he goes out and refuses to tell me where.. he says he doesnt need to tell me anything. He is nasty he has some attitude. I know he checked out of the relationship. This hurts so much but I am not going to take him treating me like I am nothing. How do I just kick him out of my apartment. How do I break up with him when it is so hard... it hurts so much because I do love this man but it is obviously not returned. I have never done this before. This man has never been sorry for anything he has done. He always blames everyone else for his actions. He says he is number 1 to everything. He tells me he cannot love me fully because I am not 120lbs and weight means everything to him. He tells my my c-section scar turns him off. He wants to watch porn during sex to get him turned on. ALL of that hurrs and a man who loves a woman would not do that. How do I do this ans make it easier on me? Hi Justbroken, I really am sorry to hear about what's been happening in your life, you don't deserve this. It's good that you seem like a strong person and you'll need this to move on with your life. Do you have any friends or family close by who can give you a bit of support? I think you know what you need to do, you can't be treated like this and the longer you leave it, the worse it's going to get. Take a stand, protect your heart and your childs, you don't need a man like this in your life, there are so many wonderful nice people out there who will give you the respect you need and deserve.
LoveAtWork Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Really sorry you're going through this right now. I think you need to make plans to get him out of your life and focus on your child as much as you can. He clearly doesn't want to be in the relationship or he's not scared enough that you'll leave him. The fact he goes out and doesn't tell you where he's going plus he had some "text fling" which I highly doubt was just texting, are not things you do to someone you want to be with.
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