Six months later

[im_thedude]

I am now over six months removed from a three year relationship, the details of which can be found in my history. Suffice to say we broke up after bringing each other down for too long.

 

I had a really hard few months immediately after the breakup, but things started looking up after my co-worker introduced me to a friend of hers. We started talking, went out for lunch once, then she went cold on me. I also started a second job and have developed a mild crush on one of my co-workers there. Nothing has come of it, but it's fun to be around her. I'm not entirely sure if I should pursue a co-worker, but I figure even if I don't it's a nice element in my life.

 

Both of these young women have qualities I like, but it's plainly apparent to me that they're not right for me. I know my ex ultimately wasn't right for me, but in many ways she was more right for me then anyone I've ever been with or even been interested in. Despite both of these new women being on my mind, I still think about my ex every day. I picture the bond we had and have a hard time imagining that sort of thing with some other person, much less with these current crushes. Yes, realistically I know I will develop a bond even better with someone new, but I'm so frustrated with all of this. I don't ever want to forget my ex per say, but I'm tired of closing my eyes at night and wishing someone was in my arms, and my mind defaulting to it being her.

 

/vent

[AnyaNova]

I am now over six months removed from a three year relationship, the details of which can be found in my history. Suffice to say we broke up after bringing each other down for too long.

 

I had a really hard few months immediately after the breakup, but things started looking up after my co-worker introduced me to a friend of hers. We started talking, went out for lunch once, then she went cold on me. I also started a second job and have developed a mild crush on one of my co-workers there. Nothing has come of it, but it's fun to be around her. I'm not entirely sure if I should pursue a co-worker, but I figure even if I don't it's a nice element in my life.

 

Both of these young women have qualities I like, but it's plainly apparent to me that they're not right for me. I know my ex ultimately wasn't right for me, but in many ways she was more right for me then anyone I've ever been with or even been interested in. Despite both of these new women being on my mind, I still think about my ex every day. I picture the bond we had and have a hard time imagining that sort of thing with some other person, much less with these current crushes. Yes, realistically I know I will develop a bond even better with someone new, but I'm so frustrated with all of this. I don't ever want to forget my ex per say, but I'm tired of closing my eyes at night and wishing someone was in my arms, and my mind defaulting to it being her.

 

/vent

 

Though it does sound like you have made some progress and are in a more stable place! I'm glad to hear it. And don't dismiss either of these women out of hand.

 

I mean, I don't know. I'm crushing on this dude right now who is so far removed from anyone I have ever dated or anything remotely related to my type and it is really kind of fun. I don't know if anything will come of it or not, for my own health I'm assuming probably not until otherwise noted.

 

But I agree. I think it is time to give your ex the old heave ho out of your mind.

 

She has been living in a huge mansion in your head for far too long. It sounds like you've managed to relegate her to a pup-tent in the backwoods, but still, it is time she gets the permanent heave ho.

 

I think at this point, Tim might have a tiny cardboard box to reside in and is very nearly booted out entirely.