lola12 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 4 weeks ago. He said he just wanted to be alone. I understand his reasons for it and that has nothing to do with my question. We live together and he's been staying at a friend's house for the last 2 weeks. During that time he keeps finding reason to come back here when I'm here and his responses are anger when I'm upset and if I try to act happy, he breaks down saying he made a big mistake. I cannot go on this emotional roller coaster anymore. Does anybody have any insight to why he might be going back and forth with his emotions this way?
Strength in Healing Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 This isn't easy to accept, but he probably is "talking" with another girl. I am in the exact same situation as you. She broke up with me, telling me it was about her and her problems, and that she was getting better... but the whole time she was talking to some creepy old dude. It's all lies. Go NC and don't ever look back at trash.
ThatGirl213 Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 4 weeks ago. He said he just wanted to be alone. I understand his reasons for it and that has nothing to do with my question. We live together and he's been staying at a friend's house for the last 2 weeks. During that time he keeps finding reason to come back here when I'm here and his responses are anger when I'm upset and if I try to act happy, he breaks down saying he made a big mistake. I cannot go on this emotional roller coaster anymore. Does anybody have any insight to why he might be going back and forth with his emotions this way? Well he misses you and feels that he made a mistake. Remember even the dumper feels bad when the relationship is over. I would like to know what his reason is to break up with you? Because that may have a lot to do with why he is acting like this.
Author lola12 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 Mostly fights stemming from miscommunication. He said he had had enough.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Was this a sudden break-up? If it was a hasty decision, he might have acted on impulse and is having doubts that he made the right choice. Or was this a long time coming? He could be simply dealing with the reality of the break-up. I have ended long-term relationships and still felt mixed emotions of loss, sadness, relief, etc. Even those who end the relationship might struggle for a while in processing the split.
Author lola12 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 He was acting friendly with me like it was important that I stay in his life but now he is being distant.
Author lola12 Posted February 25, 2014 Author Posted February 25, 2014 so now I tell him I don't give a damn and give him the cold shoulder and he's been sending me I love you messages everywhere. what does this all mean?
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