Sks777 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 help !!!! im losing hope running out of options i dont wanna through 4 years of my life over something stupid ive been in a relationship from 2009 till december 2013 the reason why she wanted to end it was " its not you its me" "i need space" we were formally engaged in june 2013 before ending the relationship ive been busy with finals and extremely stressed my ex took it personally when i yelled at her and had outbursts on the phone with her ive tried the no contact at one point she unblocked me and when i said good morning she replied but then blocked me which made me think it was an ego boost but i keep breaking the NC and i cry continuously i wanna show her im a changed person im in the process of changing my lifestyle im enrolling in a gym i bought new clothes ive blocked on her again but tonight i called her and no response i dont know what to do anymore and i know deep inside she wants me too but took the wrong advice from her mom or siblings who brainwashed her thats my guess. i sent her this email At one point before I sent the email she unblocked me And hasn't said a word on whatsapp then blocked me after she replied good morning after I greeted her before i sent her the email ive been ignored call it giving her space or whatever Dear Sara, I am writing you this letter to tell you a few things, first of all I didn't send this to annoy you I haven't been the nicest person the last couple of months and I have said some hurtful things which I regret. I haven't been giving you the attention the love and the respect that you really deserve you have every right to get angry at me if I were in your place I'd get furious and now I'm paying the price. But enough about the negativity, I want you to remember all the good things that built our relationship like the fact that I loved you more than anyone I have ever met in my entire life, you should also remember that your my best friend, my confidant, my love, my everything. Also try to remember our connection when we first kissed or when you cried when I left San Francisco or all the meaningful memories we had coming into the relationship Because that is what our relationship is based on love not hatred and the countless memories in different cities. I will always love your family as if they were my own I have the upmost respect for your sisters ,brother and parents and even your nieces and nephews and yes the ones that don't approve of me too. There's not a day that passes and I don't think of you. Everything seems to remind me of you including the radio. Not being with you has taken a toll on me but again I'm taking it slowly day by day It's something extremely difficult. I also want to add that I've talked to someone regarding my outbursts. I've also lost weight due to this I try to occupy my time in the gym which relieves the pain that I'm going through temporarily. I'm finishing my last semester I also applied for a job at the foreign ministry. Sara if I could turn back time I'd go through this relationship all over again that's how much I love you. My biggest wish is to work on things again I've changed my mindset and focus I'm working on being the best I can be regardless of the relationship I will always love you and Ill always be here if you need me nothing will change that.
I-Love-Liberty Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 You already sent that email? Put yourself in her shoes for a moment, you say you want space but then you don't get it...does that show respect? When you love someone that means you respect them too and as hard as it is, you gotta giver her what she asks for. What are you thinking for your next move? I say don't contact her.
Author Sks777 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 hi first of all thanks for taking the time to help me out i really appreciate it yes i did send that email what i did was i sent it to myself first to get the feel of it and i think i've written a good letter the rest is up to her i did put myself in her shoes but she cant just end the relationship like this specially after i formally asked for her hand and she said yes and her family accepted me if she wanted to decline then she should have done it 4 years ago i dont want space she does she didnt give me a valid response to why shes doing this mixed answers then her mom interfered which pissed me off NEXT MOVE wait it out... see what happens concentrate on other things like my future my limit is 4 months its been a month since we last met if nothing happens she can go to hell i can get better..
Author Sks777 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 im also confused because on whatsapp she unblocked me stayed that way for like a day then when i spoke to her she blocked me and all i said was good morning and my next message was hows your day like who does that if ur gonna unblock me say something or dont bother doing it i made an effort to talk to you ...i dont get how women behave
Author Sks777 Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 I forgot to add I won't wait till she has a rebound relationship she can keep the rebound my biggest fear now is a rebound.
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