Hcar2 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Hi It's been 7 months since I split with my ex of 7 years. It has been the worst time ever. However I feel like I'm getting there slowly.. He now has a new girlfriend. He sees at the weekends as they live apart. It was hard but I accept it and wish them well. We always got on really well, and have tried whenever we have to have contact, (we had a lot of things, like lots of long term couples which needed resolving ) I messages him tonight to say that the last of the direct debits had been changed over.. Well he rung me straight away.. ( I haven't spoken to him for a few weeks ) he asked about all the things I'm involved in, laughing, joking.. Even a little flirting maybe. When I tried to wrap the conversation up he would ask something else. He doesn't ever mention his new girlfriend.. Skirts around it. Is this normal? Would he be genuinely asking about me as a 'friend' he is supposedly happy with his new girl.. I feel happy to have spoken to him, would he feel the same? Would he even realise that it's a strange thing to do? He used to walk the dog we had together until recently, then just stopped coming. I said nothing, it's his choice. But he said he would be over again soon today. Of course I still have feelings for him, I thought he was the one. Although I realise he has moved on. Was today just a gee up for him?? Whenever we chat it's lovely, if I message for something he'll reply straight the way. I know if I needed him he'd be there. What do you guys think?
TaraMaiden Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 In answer to your thread title/question, YOU know YOU are just friends with an ex, when you feel benign indifference. in other words, you're just fine seeing them, and you feel nothing at all, but "meh, I hope he has a good life, but I need to buy some potatoes now....." You're wondering, I think, whether he's still holding a flame for you though, and I think that's really what your question is focussed on: "What's he playing at?" I think you need to nip this in the bud. He's with someone, and continued approaches like this by him, encouraged, it sounds (or at least not DIScouraged), by you, will only lead to you being lifted up and possibly being dropped again from a great height. Don't get your hopes up, but in whichever way you think would elicit a true response from him, ask him what he's playing at. you have that right. If only to safeguard your heart. It is precious after all, and he's broken it before....
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