Camaro Guy Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Well, it's a shame that it's taken me almost 23 years to realize this. Probably almost 10 if you realize that I've only been really interested in girls since 13. I graduated college almost 2 years ago. In that time period, I've taken great strides both personally and professionally. I moved out of my parent's house and got my own apartment (which doesn't even really seem like an apartment). Paid a majority cash down for my first car and now I have small monthly payments. Have a great job which I actually like and brings in good money. I've made a good amount of new friends and I'm furthering my hobbies. Still, there was one fact that really bothered me. I hadn't had a girlfriend or hooked up with a girl. Ever. Not in high school, not in college. And it bothered me. Because I wasted those years I'd never get back. Hearing all the stories my friends would tell me about drunken hookups, screwing girls in cars, hooking up with girls who wanted no strings attached... I'd get envious. I'd even get envious of the guys who had girlfriends because they were having sex on the regular. Yet I wasn't. I'm at the age now where girls are looking for something serious and even when you're not, they want to be looking forward to marriage. Over the past week, I felt like a huge gnawing pain in my side. It was unbearable and I called my mom. There was an ultra sound done and it was found that I had a massive amount of stones in my bile duct. They had to take out 5,6 stones. I couldn't eat at all because everything would kept on being thrown up. That hospital visit really put everything in perspective for me. No one was there. Expect my parents (mainly my mom). Then I realized I wouldn't love anyone as much as I love her. And visa versa. I now have no desire for a romantic partner. A hookup. A girlfriend. I don't care. I don't care if I eventually never get married. I just realize we're all on different paths and timelines. If I never get married oh well. For the better. I just know that I'm on my way to being the best person I can be. If I never hookup with someone. That's fine. No STDs for me. It's just comforting to finally come to this conclusion after it seems like it's been so long.
InnocentMan Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 You're what? 23? Get a grip. You should be beating them off with a stick at that age, with your own place and car. 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 What is far more worrying is - 23 and gallstones!! 5
Eggplant Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 I now have no desire for a romantic partner. A hookup. A girlfriend. I don't care. I don't care if I eventually never get married. I just realize we're all on different paths and timelines. If I never get married oh well. For the better. I just know that I'm on my way to being the best person I can be. If I never hookup with someone. That's fine. No STDs for me. It's just comforting to finally come to this conclusion after it seems like it's been so long.OP, it's great that you're fine with whatever your fate may be. However, I believe you'll have a fabulous love life some day.
Author Camaro Guy Posted February 22, 2014 Author Posted February 22, 2014 So... is this post to convince yourself? No, it was to tell the good news. You're what? 23? Get a grip. You should be beating them off with a stick at that age, with your own place and car. I don't know what you mean. I'm 23 without every having any experience with girls. That doesn't happen everyday. What is far more worrying is - 23 and gallstones!! I have a medical condition. I'll just leave it at that. OP, it's great that you're fine with whatever your fate may be. However, I believe you'll have a fabulous love life some day. Thanks, we'll see how it all pans out. Great!! At least you have the right mindset to accept life 20 years from now.....when you are single in your 40's, and all the people you know are married....and you no longer have a social circle. I don't necessarily believe that's true. If you want your friendship with others to disintegrate, it will whether they or you are married or not.
carhill Posted February 22, 2014 Posted February 22, 2014 Yep, gallstone attack made me get down on my knees and pray to God for the first time in 30 years. Death would have felt better. Comparatively, the worst emotional pain a woman has ever caused me, and there have been plenty, was nothing. I went through what you've going through back when I was your age. Looking back it probably was a waste of time but it, the good and the not so good, made the person I am today and I'm quite satisfied with that. Enjoy your parents; before you know it, they'll be gone. Memories are nice. Hope you make many more new ones. Enjoyed a lot of Mustang versus Camaro showdowns in my day, both on the street and at the track. Formidable competitors, those Chevy guys were Racing was a big part of 'moving on' during that period. Good luck.
Author Camaro Guy Posted February 23, 2014 Author Posted February 23, 2014 I went through what you've going through back when I was your age. Looking back it probably was a waste of time but it, the good and the not so good, made the person I am today and I'm quite satisfied with that. Enjoy your parents; before you know it, they'll be gone. Memories are nice. Hope you make many more new ones. Enjoyed a lot of Mustang versus Camaro showdowns in my day, both on the street and at the track. Formidable competitors, those Chevy guys were Racing was a big part of 'moving on' during that period. Good luck. Yeah, I know they won't be around forever, that's why I'm trying to make the most of it now. And cool, I don't race though.
Andy_K Posted February 23, 2014 Posted February 23, 2014 I don't know what you mean. I'm 23 without every having any experience with girls. That doesn't happen everyday Here's some news for ya kid. I was more or less the same. I was 22 before I had my first proper girlfriend. I'd had a couple of flings but I was basically very inexperienced with sex, and completely inexperienced with actual meaningful dating or relationships. To top it all off, I was a naturally shy guy with none of the banter/charm/flirting skills some guys have. It looked pretty bleak. Now I'm 30. I've learned far more in those eight years than most people do in a lifetime. Or several. I've had serious relationships, flings and one night stands, good dates and bad ones, and experienced a whole host of different personality types and issues. You want romantic experiences, there's only one thing you really have to do. Try. And don't give up. You aren't at quitting time. You haven't missed everything. Youre just starting out. 1
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