seany85 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 This is a question to the women here on this board. Say you met a guy, he's tall, attractive, physically fit, neat and clean, decent personality, sweet, charming, intelligent, decent size penis, good lover (i.e. attentive, giving, open, etc.). But he has one major flaw. He's unemployed. Would you date him?
emva07 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 depends why he's unemployed and what he's doing about it. 8
Zahara Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Is he actively seeking employment or sitting on his behind playing video games?
hasaquestion Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 This is a question to the women here on this board. Say you met a guy, he's tall, attractive, physically fit, neat and clean, decent personality, sweet, charming, intelligent, decent size penis, good lover (i.e. attentive, giving, open, etc.). But he has one major flaw. He's unemployed. Would you date him? If he's going to whip it out after shaking hands? No I don't think anyone would date him. 1
Gaeta Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Depends how long unemployed and what is his employment history, is he on unemployment insurance or on welfare? I would not date someone who can't keep a job. I would also wonder why he is spending time looking for a date and not looking for a job. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Depends on why he's unemployed, but probably not, no. I would not date somebody that was incapable of supporting themselves. If somebody was recently made redundant and is trying hard to find work I would possibly consider it but they would have to be very, very special. I'm not judging anybody for being unemployed, btw, it's tough out there and not everybody is fortunate to never be fired for whatever reason. But it's something I would not be looking for in a potential partner. I did have a boyfriend once who became unemployed a couple months after we got together and was unemployed for months, but I could see he was really trying to find work. So if I'm already into somebody and they get laid off it's not enough for me to stop being with them, at all, but when I'm starting from square one with a guy him being unemployed would be a humongous downside, and I don't think I would proceed any further once I found that information out. I also wouldn't be dating guys if I was unemployed. All of my effort would be going towards finding work again!
SYLLPalmer Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 I would absolutely date him. He is a catch. Just a matter of time before he is back on his feet.
Phantom888 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 I've talked to many women about this, so this is what I've been told. "An unemployed man is as attractive to women as an extremely ugly woman is to a man. On the surface they are deal-breakers, but they can be remedied. Depending on how much effort is being put in, that determines how date-able the person is. Unemployed men can find work, and ugly women can get plastic surgery. But in general, unemployment for a man weighs far heavier than looks, personality and penis size...." 1
Sivok Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 That person might be able to reel in a naive girl or someone just interested in casual sex, but if they're looking for something more serious... The unemployed guy would be written off quite quickly
kaylan Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 I've talked to many women about this, so this is what I've been told. "An unemployed man is as attractive to women as an extremely ugly woman is to a man. On the surface they are deal-breakers, but they can be remedied. Depending on how much effort is being put in, that determines how date-able the person is. Unemployed men can find work, and ugly women can get plastic surgery. But in general, unemployment for a man weighs far heavier than looks, personality and penis size...." Sorry but this is not what I have seen at all. Remember, many times what a woman says and what a woman does are two different things. 5
TouchedByViolet Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Guys who have the looks and charm can land almost any girl. Everything else takes a back seat.
StanMusial Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Guys who have the looks and charm can land almost any girl. Everything else takes a back seat. Yeah, this is what I've seen in my experience. Heck, go on OLD and you'll be banging them senseless before they even ask your job. 1
Phoe Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Yes I would, as long as he's a wonderful guy. Done it before.
pteromom Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Nope. Not unless the unemployment was a fluke layoff or something. Even then, I would wonder why he's trying to date when his life is in shambles. Shows lack of judgment. 3
InnocentMan Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 It kinda works both ways. Unemployed females are truly depressing creatures. An unemployed man generally has a bit more about him. He's either artistic, or a decent petty criminal. The female version is usually just a drain, financially, and emotionally.
Noproblem Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Well, if he is ambitious and I really like him We'll work together to fix that flaw!
hasaquestion Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Nope. Not unless the unemployment was a fluke layoff or something. Even then, I would wonder why he's trying to date when his life is in shambles. Shows lack of judgment. Bingo. Come on son. Why the hell are you chasing tail when you don't even have a job? 3
Tayken Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 This is a question to the women here on this board. Say you met a guy, he's tall, attractive, physically fit, neat and clean, decent personality, sweet, charming, intelligent, decent size penis, good lover (i.e. attentive, giving, open, etc.). But he has one major flaw. He's unemployed. Would you date him? Hmmmm...This is typical isn't it? A lot of the emphasis has been focused on infatuation as opposed to substance....penis size, seriously? Anyway...Ask yourself this, how is all that going to pay the bill? If a woman came with all those qualities, I wouldn't sign up for that. You know why? If you fall into the common law / marriage trap, and they end up just staying at home not working...depending on how long you were married for, you could find yourself paying Alimony for a long time and for the person to gain new skills Not surprised by this though one iota
kaylan Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Nope. Not unless the unemployment was a fluke layoff or something. Even then, I would wonder why he's trying to date when his life is in shambles. Shows lack of judgment. Unemployed doesnt always mean life in shambles. My best friend was layed off a few years ago. He got severance, had a good amount of savings, and was working a few months later. He had the means to date, and I wouldnt expect him to be a hermit just because he got laid off in a bad economy. 1
Tayken Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Unemployed doesnt always mean life in shambles. My best friend was layed off a few years ago. He got severance, had a good amount of savings, and was working a few months later. He had the means to date, and I wouldnt expect him to be a hermit just because he got laid off in a bad economy. Yes...but unfortunately people do. You do even want to know how many men (not me as I have only 1 child and my ex worked) have found themselves with their partner deciding they don't feel like going back to work after they had a child. I mean WTH.....it's such an emotional blackmail because they are thinking, what are you going to do about it? You can't make them
pteromom Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Unemployed doesnt always mean life in shambles. My best friend was layed off a few years ago. He got severance, had a good amount of savings, and was working a few months later. He had the means to date, and I wouldnt expect him to be a hermit just because he got laid off in a bad economy. Good point. There's also a difference between people my age and people your age. I would expect a guy my age to prioritize finding employment over someone in his 20s who may look at the break as an opportunity to enjoy himself for a while.
pteromom Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 But really, it's about degree and extent. A guy with a solid record who suddenly finds himself unemployed is a lot different than one who has a very spotty job history with many periods of unemployment or one who has been unemployed for three years. 2
StanMusial Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Well, if he is ambitious and I really like him We'll work together to fix that flaw! Guys as described by the OP will see you coming from a mile away. In the normal world there is a certain dynamic in male/female relationships. Typically problems arise due to a disruption in this dynamic. I have personally witnessed what happens when the successful female couples with the deadbeat charmer. The majority resulted in affairs, a < 10 year marriage, a single mother, and an unchanged deadbeat charmer.
kaylan Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 (edited) Yes...but unfortunately people do. You do even want to know how many men (not me as I have only 1 child and my ex worked) have found themselves with their partner deciding they don't feel like going back to work after they had a child. I mean WTH.....it's such an emotional blackmail because they are thinking, what are you going to do about it? You can't make them Id make damn sure my wife was on the same page as I about working with kids. I tend to be attracted to working women who value independence. If my future wife decided to pull that switch on me, I wouldnt be staying in the same residence with her until she wised up. Im serious too. Id hope smart women my age know that many places require two incomes to raise a family comfortably in this modern era. If a woman didnt want to work, she wouldnt be my woman. I understand needing maternity leave and taking time with the kids. But she wont be doing that for years and years. Find another guy if thats the case.Guys as described by the OP will see you coming from a mile away. In the normal world there is a certain dynamic in male/female relationships. Typically problems arise due to a disruption in this dynamic. I have personally witnessed what happens when the successful female couples with the deadbeat charmer. The majority resulted in affairs, a < 10 year marriage, a single mother, and an unchanged deadbeat charmer. Because the same thing doesnt happen with a using woman? Users are users. But dont make the ignorant assumption that someones a user just because they hit hard times. Edited February 21, 2014 by kaylan
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