Dutchdoor65 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 A few details: Together over 6 and a half years. He absolutely abandoned and dumped me for a mess of a woman who suffers from alcoholism and mental illness. Stayed in contact for over month afterwards, to clean up loose ends. That was horrible. Had to hear all about his new relationship from him. He acted like I was a sister or cousin as he would describe his new sex life. Yes..I am serious. I finally had enough and wrote him an email on the 9th saying I never wanted to see or talk to him again, and told him to respect that I needed to heal and move on. One week later, I got the breadcrumbs in texts. First one asking me how I was. I didn't answer. 10 minutes later, he told me my favorite movie was on. I didn't answer. 10 minutes later, I got a final text simply saying..."Whatever." The following day, I went to leave for work, and hanging on my door handle of my car was some tupperware in a plastic bag I had left behind. Really? Some cheap plastic container hanging on my car? Nothing since. It messed me up for a couple of days. All the tears, all the stress, all the anger came flooding back. I was in some of your boats, wanting desperately to hear from him. Well...to be told "Whatever"...after all that time together? Breadcrumbs are not for the still weak at heart, that's for sure.
lvroflife Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Cyber hug to you... This man is not a man he is boy. Playing games. Kudos to you for being strong and not taking the "crumbs". !!
KatZee Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 He's going to realize one day what he left you for. An alcoholic with mental illness? GOOD freaking luck, buddy. He just feels like s.hit and he's trying to keep you in his life so he doesn't have to face the fact that he's a waste of a human being. If you were to continue being a "friend" to him, he would think he's an OK guy. Good job for not answering and throwing him out of your life. He just wants to get a rise out of you, that's why he sent the most insignificant crap back to you. He wanted to have the "last word" so to speak. If you were going to get rid of him, he thought he'd play this game back. It really shows how immature he is. Clearly, he's not all that mentally healthy himself if he plays these little passive aggressive games, rubs his new sex life in your face, and then decides to be with an alcoholic and someone who is mentally ill. People that actively choose to be with alcoholics/addicts are more often than not, off a little bit, or co-dependent. I'd say you dodged a huge bullet here, you don't want this person in your life.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 If you get in touch with your cellphone carrier you should be able to block him so that his messages do not come through. Failing that, continue to reply to them with radio silence. You are doing exactly the right thing.
Chi townD Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 You seem to be hung up on the fact that he texted you "whatever". And you even stated that after all the time you spent together, the last thing he said to you was...whatever. Well, guess what? Whatever isn't an admission that he doesn't give a sh*t for his own selfish reasons. Right now, he's racking his brain wondering why you won't respond to him. Buy a clue dude!!! See, the thing is, he dropped you for a girl that is a HOT MESS and he wants you to fill that emotional need of someone behaving normally. Then, he would have the best of both worlds. One girl to take care of his physical needs and another to take care of his emotional needs. So, don't give it to him. He'll try again. He'll text you asking if you got the Tupperware back or something. Ignore it. Stay NC!!!
Nicki73562 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 Try to stay strong and don't respond to him even though it is hard. In the long run it will be better to stay NC. Hang in there I know it is hard.
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