blandet123 Posted February 21, 2014 Posted February 21, 2014 She finally dumped me just before Christmas. I am 22 years old, and she is 21. We were together for about 4 years, and lived together for 2,5 - 3 years. During the last 6 month of our relationship, we did not do that good anymore. We had a lot of ups and downs. Severally times did we sit at home, her crying and telling me that she did not wanted to be together anymore, after another fight. And I just being kind of cold (I knew that she did not meant it), and telling her that we could do better etc... Something changed in November. We disagreed about some things, and ended up fighting. We talked after that, and did agree on really trying to do better. (This was different than the other times, and we agreed giving our relationship a shot more). We did not spend much time the following weekend, because I was on a night shift at work, and she was busy with school. In the next weekend did she go to her hometown drinking with a friend, and I got friends over drinking too. During the night she text me, something like "are you having fun", and when I asked her she replied something like "my friend does, and i'm trying to keep up with her"... She came home Sunday, and everything seemed fine. But when I came home from work Monday, it was all different. She told me that she was not sure about her feelings for me, and needed some time to think. And she actually said that she did not think that we should be together anymore. She said she needed a break, to clear her mind. She did not know if her thoughts were right, and which direction she wanted to go. She had to see if she will misses me. I disagreed, and said that we should stay together. She kind of agreed, we could give the relationship some time and see. The following weeks did I stay with friends, parents etc, to let her alone. I was home sometimes, but not much. After a while I told her that I would come home to talk. I really have to, I was feeling TERRIBLE, and not knowing what was going on and that I might loose her. My mind was completely changed. Before I did have a kind of "I don’t care"-attitude to her, when our relationship was in trouble, but now I had really realised how much she meant to me. Unfortunately too late. I came home to talk to her. She said that she had missed me, but more than a friend. She was then pretty clear, telling me that she was missing the feelings for me as a boyfriend - but still love me, just as a friend. She wanted to be free, and don’t think about what she is doing. She told me that right now did she want to go travelling (in summer) and party with her friends. But maybe it would change before, and she maybe go travelling with me or a new boyfriend? I asked her if she could se us getting back together, and she answered "I don’t know" (again, that was her most common answer when i asked her about the future) - maybe, but I should not wait for here? I was crying and really a mess but I moved out of our apartment. She is still living there. We agreed to meet a couple days after. We went out, had a good time. On our way back to my car, did I put my arm around her, she told me that it was not a good idea (I would just win her back) Christmas came and we wrote Merry Christmas to each other. On one of the following days after Christmas did I miss her that much that i drove to her apartment. I knocked on the door, and realised that she had company. She opened, and was shocked to see me. I asked her if she got company, and yes she had. - She was eating dinner with a +4 years older guy from her work. She asked me to go for a walk so she could explain. We walked a bit and she told me that he was a friend. She had known him since summer, but did not tell me because I would just be Jelaoux. She said she was bored and asked him to come for company. I was crying and blaming her. I thought she was with him, which she declined. She called me a couple of hours after. She said that she was feeling so bad about this situation, and she had through up, and passed out after him leaving. She said she wished that she has just invited me inside, so I could meet him and seeing that he was just a friend etc... But she still thought that she had made the right decision, leaving me. Just before new year, I went to her place to get my stuff. She waved me goodbye and was actually pretty sad when I left (First time during this process she showed her feelings) I went NC. She texted me at new years, wishing me happy New Year and I replayed. Back to NC until mid-January. We meet up to clean up some of our stuff. We had fun and went out for dinner, and it was really nice. Later that night did i text her, to make her Jaloux. And she became Jaloux. The day after I realised that it was a bad idea. I texted her and apologised. She said it was strange but OK. Then we did not really talked for a pretty long time. A couple weeks back, we texted about some stuff we needed to sort out. She was pretty ice-cold, and I asked her why? She said that she really wanted to be friend, but it seems like it was not possible to me right now. I told her how she would know, when we was not even talking. She responded that i texted in a strange way to her, and that i TRIED to make her jaloux some weeks ago (She BECAME jaloux, but now she denied?) I just told her that I just wanted to talked a bit to her, and was finish playing games. She accepted, we texted a bit. But it did not really seem like she had accepted what I told her 100%. Since then NC, except for a few breadcrumbs. Bonus: My brother's girlfriend went to her place talking to her for 2 hours. My ex told her that she was trying to be busy, doing things. She thought it was hard, especially when she was home alone. (When i asked her, she said she was really doing good etc...?) She told her that she think we was more like best friend, than lovers the last 6 month... But she still thinks that she made the right decision, dumping me. Then they talked about Paris, and my ex told her about our trip last year? What a story? 2 - 3 month since the break. I don’t think we have had much contact after, but i wished that she had contacted me. I woke up, I have now realised how much she means to me - but now she is gone I am in a much better place now, I’ve improved. I can think clearly again, but i misses her. I want her back! How? What do you think of all this, and how to get her back - realising she made a mistake? Please, share your thoughts... I apologise for my bad English
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