Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 (edited) Hi my name is Nicole. I am new here as my boyfriend and I broke up a week ago. We met online and he lived with me for 3 years. It is hard because I have 2 special needs children that got attached to him, plus I am hurting badly. He was good to my kids and our relationship other than he has temper issues and was physically abusive to me, and decided to leave which was smart because I didnt want to be with an abusive person. Now I keep thinking it was my fault he was abusive to me because of my moods and things like that. It ended badly where I kicked him out after keeping him here a week when he was going to leave the next day. My parents got involved and got the cops to escort him out which he was willing to do anyway. My parents are never around to help other then when there is a serious problem which even then not always. I am hurting badly and he is going back to his old state now by bus and I wish it didnt end so badly. I am alone and hurting bad. Edited February 20, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and edited title and deleted duplicate thread
lvroflife Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 First take a deep breath you are in shock! Can I ask why would you want someone who abuses you? YOU NEED to focus on you and your kids!!! Nevermind him!! YOU NEED TO BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM UP! No one and I MEAN NO ONE, should ever stay with or desire to be with someone who is abusive. That screams insecurities! Granted we all have our insecurities... You are better than that!! Say words of affirmations to yourself and SMILE!! And when you get down just keep posting on here!! It will get BETTER!!
Author Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 You are so right I don't want to be with someone who is abusive. All is care about is my kids and i am trying to help myself. I am just hurting.
Author Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 I am also disabled mentally. i have a lot of issues and medications I am on too. It doesn't help that i have the mental issues.
changedlife Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 Nicki if you are on medications to help you, your partner should be supportive not abusive. There is no excuse for a man to hit a woman. If you are in a bad mood he should do anything he can to help you with it. You deserve better. Don't blame yourself. 2
Author Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 thanks but I am always moody and he knew how i was when he came into the relationship so I guess that's what helps me. He has issues too and we clashed. i even told him I didn't want a relationship in the beginning because how i was, but then we ended up together after time because he understood me. It is gonna take time I know to get over it
Author Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 My ex is from another state 12 hrs away and he was living with me 3 years until we broke up. Now he has nowhere else to go so he is going back to his "friends" that he hasn't talked to in yearto his old state.. I keep looking on their pages on FB to see if they know he is coming home like it bothers me. I just need to stop why am I worrying about where he is?
Driftking102 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I have blocked all contact with my ex. That took a lot of will power. Blocking her facebook profile so i cant view it, blocking her email, and blocking her phone number. I also deleted everything on the computer that reminded me of her. Tearing up any evidence that we were together. This might help you in what you are going through. Also seeing a counselor has helped a lot too.
Author Nicki73562 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 thanks I have moved a lot out of the way once we broke up he took down pictures etc cause I needed to take them down and stuff like that. Now his stuff is here and I need to not look in my cellar. I am on medication and counseling does sound like a good idea.
Author Nicki73562 Posted February 21, 2014 Author Posted February 21, 2014 I know it is only day 2 but my ex has been gone and he is probably in his other state now. I woke up and did what I usually do and I feel happy. I hope this lasts for awhile cause I know I am going to have harder days. Just wanted to share I am having a good day so far and post something positive about myself.
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