the_entertainer1 Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 I met this guy on NYE, through a friend, and have been on 3 dates since then. The most recent date was for Valentine's Day, when we went out for dinner, saw a parade and then went out for with another couple who are friends of his. We ended the evening by stopping at a lookout and having our first kiss. I think we both had a good time. I get the impression he wants to take things slowly, though. It was only 5 months ago that he broke up with his ex of four years and was consequently diagnosed with depression. Basically, I don't want to come on too strong, but I still want to make it clear that I like him and am interested in seeing him more. Any tips?
PegNosePete Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 3 dates in 1.5 months? That's so slow it's almost backwards. Just be yourself. If you want to ask him out then ask him out. If you're going too fast for him then he will say... but if this snail's pace is too fast for him then I think he needs to heal up a bit before dating anyone!!
scooby-philly Posted February 20, 2014 Posted February 20, 2014 5 months after 4 years is not a long time. He may be totally into you but he may still be hurting, second guessing, worrying about what you'll say/think about him. Ask yourself - what do you want. If you want him, then try and find ways to get him to realize what your feeling. Eventually, he'll hopefully come around and when you need support, he'll be there or work at your pace. If you just want something physical, and that's okay to want, then you need to be honest with yourself.
Author the_entertainer1 Posted February 20, 2014 Author Posted February 20, 2014 If you want him, then try and find ways to get him to realize what your feeling. Eventually, he'll hopefully come around and when you need support, he'll be there or work at your pace. If you just want something physical, and that's okay to want, then you need to be honest with yourself. Good advice but I put the question out here because I can't think of any ways to get him to realise what I'm feeling! Like, can you give me some ideas of things I could actually do or say, which won't be too full on? Like, a mutual friend is having a party tomorrow night - is it too full-on to ask this guy, knowing we will both have friends there who will be seeing us as a "couple" for the first time? Or am I overthinking?
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