Sabotaging a relationship because of fear of not being taken seriously

[HomanWater]

I've read a theory here:

 

Not only that. A good girl has learnt that she shouldn't show her wild self to a guy who she wants to take her seriously. Now that her bf knows for sure that this part of herself has once existed, she is scared that he may not take her seriously anymore. She prefers to have a so-so sex life (I'm not saying mediocre, learnt my lesson ) than to show her bf that she likes it rough and wild and maybe lose his respect. Women still have the impression that if they show they are too experienced in sex and that they know what they like and demand it, they automatically show that they had many sexual partners in their lives, which equals (for most men) to having been slutty. So now she doesn't want him to see her as a sexually liberated woman all of a sudden with the fear to lose his respect. This is what I'm almost 100% is happening now.

 

Is it so?

 

If so, that sounds pretty terrible to me. Like a Madonna-whore thing.

[Philosoraptor]

You know the best way to know sabotage your relationship? Just do what comes natural. If you scare someone away being yourself then they were simply not compatible to begin with... so be thankful you didn't waste any more time than necessary.

[HomanWater]

This is what I think about it. I like to think that if you have to hide something from your partner because of fear of being judged, you shouldn't be with them.

 

But apparently, others do not agree. I'd like to know if there is sth more behind it.